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Bedroom Heat – Improving Sex Life

Uncategorized Jun 26, 2023

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

1/3 – Bedroom Heat - Expectations

Hey brother,

We're all set for another epic monthly sequence focusing on bedroom heat, aka. S-E-X.

I know what you're thinking – "Bedroom fire, where does this guy come up with this stuff?"

I'd like to say it's the Holy Spirit, but honestly, my brain has always been a little whack. I'm just glad God helped me find a way to make use of it.

Here's the deal, I turned 33 recently and even though the jump from 32 to 33 seems insignificant, I've noticed that a lot of my friends are starting to talk about different problems now.

Sure, there's still some worry about finances. I think most men go through that.

And yes, there's some chatter about "kids these days" and how "times are changing so quickly".

And of course – we will talk about how bad all of our favorite sports teams here in Toronto are and...

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Just Junk – Male Anatomy

Uncategorized Jun 02, 2023

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) – Male Anatomy 101

It's time for our monthly sequence on a spicy and insightful topic concerning recovery, and this month doesn't get any spicier (or more insightful).

We're talking about male anatomy.

The trouser snake.
The silent flute.
The lap rocket.
The floppy disk (for those of you with ED).

Speaking of ED – tomorrow's email is going to cover what to do when your equipment down south isn't functioning properly (including a rather embarrassing story of my own experience with ED).

Today, however, is all about the practicals of how to keep your homie healthy and happy.

I still remember in my early years of watching hardcore p**n seeing a video title that was entirely about the appendage of the male performer.

"That's weird" I thought to myself. "Why would I care about the dude?"

So I kept scrolling.

But as time went on, as I...

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Are you tired of feeling like your sin defines you?

Uncategorized May 04, 2023

When I was watching p**n on a regular basis, I was VERY aware of just how damaging sin can be.

My confidence was shot.
I felt like a shell of myself.
The sense of feeling disconnected from God was overwhelming.

And I was severely hindering my chances of getting married.

Sin is costly.

Not only from the “upfront” costs that we are keenly aware of, but also because of the collateral.

Sometimes, the reason sin persists in our lives is because the first time we committed the sin, we drew a conclusion about ourselves that enables the sin to continue.

You had an affair? You’re an adulterer.
You watch p**n? You’re a pervert.
You struggle with lust? You’re a sinner.

If you’re an adulterer by identity, then would you not continue to have adulterous interactions?

If you’re a pervert, what’s to stop you from continuing to watch p**n?

You get the idea.

The world would have you believe that your behavior dictates your identity, but in the Kingdom of...

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Community

Uncategorized Apr 28, 2023

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Community Is Overrated (for real)

Hey man,

Let me ask you something...

Raise your virtual hand if In the last year, have you heard a message about the importance of community on a...

-Podcast
-Sermon
-YouTube video
-IG/FB/TikTok post

... (apologies if your skin tone wasn't included).

If we extended that to the last 2 years, or 5 years, it would be hands up all over the place. 

Messages of community are RAMPANT. And for good reason.

But to kick this thing off with the punchline...community is terribly overrated.

"What happened to you Sathiya? I thought community was the bedrock of recovery. Connection is the opposite of addiction, therefore we need to plug-in to community, right?"

Absolutely. 100%. Still stand by all of that.

But I equally stand with the statement that community is overrated.

Just like "being present"...

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How Much Does Childhood Matter

Uncategorized Apr 27, 2023

Family is one of the most beautiful and complicated words in the English language.

God’s design for this thing called life is that we would experience it in the context of a safe, loving and empowering family environment.

Some of you reading this were actually fortunate enough to have an experience that matches the description above.

Many of you were not.

And some of you may not know where you land.

Personally, as a family led by immigrant parents, the question I always had rolling around in my head was “Are we normal?”

We ate different food. 
Spoke different languages. 
And didn’t really “look the part” (I grew up in the prairies to give some context lol).

As society is beginning to uncover the supreme value of childhood as a whole, parent-child relationships, and mother-father dynamics in our development, there are some risks that come with it.

One risk is that we blame all of our problems on childhood. We see this happen in our...

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How Much Does Childhood Matter

Uncategorized Apr 27, 2023

Family is one of the most beautiful and complicated words in the English language.

God’s design for this thing called life is that we would experience it in the context of a safe, loving and empowering family environment.

Some of you reading this were actually fortunate enough to have an experience that matches the description above.

Many of you were not.

And some of you may not know where you land.

Personally, as a family led by immigrant parents, the question I always had rolling around in my head was “Are we normal?”

We ate different food. 
Spoke different languages. 
And didn’t really “look the part” (I grew up in the prairies to give some context lol).

As society is beginning to uncover the supreme value of childhood as a whole, parent-child relationships, and mother-father dynamics in our development, there are some risks that come with it.

One risk is that we blame all of our problems on childhood. We see this happen in our...

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Are You With The Right People?

Uncategorized Apr 20, 2023

He who finds a wife finds a good ting, and obtains favor from the LORD – Prov 18:22 (Jamaican version).

When I was single people used to always tell me that you have to choose your spouse carefully because it is the second most important decision you’ll ever make.

(The first being giving your life to Jesus).

In hindsight, they were right. But I wish someone would have told me why.

There’s a scripture in 1 Corinthians 15 that says “bad company corrupts good character.”

In other words, you can be the most incredible human being in the world, but if you’re surrounded by the wrong people, it won’t matter.

Something I’ve realized lately is that your spouse winds up being your “company” for the rest of your life.

And they will either corrupt or enhance your character, integrity, calling, etc.

I can say with all my heart, my wife is the best company a guy could ask for.

She makes me a better man, and she challenges me to grow in...

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Gratitude At All Times

Uncategorized Apr 13, 2023

Well, we’re no longer on the sunny beaches of Jamaica, but a guy can still dream right?

We’ve been home for a few weeks now and it is becoming very clear that this year is about stabilizing.

Last year, we traveled a ton, took on lots of new adventures, and made some improvements to our home.

This is a year to settle, enjoy the fruits of our labor, and dig roots into the local community.

Shaloma and I have made a weekly practice of reflecting on the past week, worshiping & praying together, and then planning the week ahead.

Something we’ve observed is how much we have to be grateful for on a daily basis, but how easily we overlook it.

Many times I find myself saying, “Man, we have a good life.”

Things are far from perfect. There are challenges too.

But any time I take a moment to reflect on the life we’re living and the things God has done and is doing in our lives…

I can’t help but be overwhelmed with gratitude.

Life has its...

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How To Combat Busyness

Uncategorized Apr 06, 2023

Every moment matters. Everything is sacred. In all you do, do it as unto the Lord.

These are some of the words I’ve been speaking to myself lately as things begin to ramp up here at DeepClean.

Busyness is one of the greatest enemies we face today.

And most of us are busy with really “good” things – work, church, family, etc.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes in the midst of it all, I catch myself tuning out a bit..

Spending just a bit more time on my phone than I should when my loved ones are around..

Talking myself out of giving 100% because I can get away with it or because “it’s not THAT important”.

But one thing I am learning is that whether it’s a mundane minute between Zoom calls…

A weekly date with my wife…

The first 45 mins of my day with God…

Or I’m on the couch in reruns of The Simpsons and Seinfeld like it’s no one’s business…

It all matters.

In recovery, you will have...

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Stress Management 101

Uncategorized Mar 31, 2023

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

Part 1: - Stress Management 101 For Men

Have you ever felt stressed before?

Dumb question, I know. Obviously the answer is yes.

Have you felt stressed lately - like in the last week?

Another dumb question. Obviously you have.

Well let me ask you a smarter question instead...

Do you think you would have an issue with p*rn if you never experienced stress?

This is the first email of a 3-part series where I am going to show you how men should handle their stress

By the end of this sequence, you'll understand how stress correlates with slips/relapses  AND you'll know what to do differently the next time you're up to your eyeballs in the cares of life so that it doesn't lead to hulk-like outcomes.

As a starting point – what is stress? (Oh so we're back to the dumb questions again, perfect).

Well, you may...

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