Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Gentle Giant – The Elephant In The Room

My man,

I hope this email finds you well.

It's that time of the month again where we dive into a core male subject, solve the world's problems, and hopefully have a chuckle or two along the way.

This month's series is titled "Gentle Giant"...

Today's email specifically is titled "The Elephant In The Room"...

And yet, somehow, this series is not about penis health .

Instead, we are talking about an issue that EVERY SINGLE PERSON on the planet deals with.

You've dealt with it pretty much since day 1.

Then you became a teenager and dealt with it a lot more.

Then you got married – and at first it seemed like the problem had gone away.

But several months later (and ever since then), this issue comes up more and more.

Sure it comes in waves, but it's there with some kind of...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Plugged In – How's Your Connection?

Brother,

This week I had the chance to interview a man named Jon Gordon.

The guy has sold over 5 million books. Advises professional teams and athletes that you and I would immediately recognize. Charges 75k to speak at an event. You get the idea...

His core messages have revolved around positive psychology, leadership, personal development, etc. But he recently launched a book called The One Truth that is all about oneness with God.

I brought him on to my podcast because I believe his message is speaking into an area where men like me and you need help (plus he doesn't charge for podcast interviews ).

And our time together really impacted me – so it has inspired this month's email sequence. I really believe this series could be a game-changer for you so please read all the way through.

...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

1/3 – Bedroom Heat - Expectations

Hey brother,

We're all set for another epic monthly sequence focusing on bedroom heat, aka. S-E-X.

I know what you're thinking – "Bedroom fire, where does this guy come up with this stuff?"

I'd like to say it's the Holy Spirit, but honestly, my brain has always been a little whack. I'm just glad God helped me find a way to make use of it.

Here's the deal, I turned 33 recently and even though the jump from 32 to 33 seems insignificant, I've noticed that a lot of my friends are starting to talk about different problems now.

Sure, there's still some worry about finances. I think most men go through that.

And yes, there's some chatter about "kids these days" and how "times are changing so quickly".

And of course – we will talk about how bad all of our favorite sports teams here in Toronto are and...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) – Male Anatomy 101

It's time for our monthly sequence on a spicy and insightful topic concerning recovery, and this month doesn't get any spicier (or more insightful).

We're talking about male anatomy.

The trouser snake.
The silent flute.
The lap rocket.
The floppy disk (for those of you with ED).

Speaking of ED – tomorrow's email is going to cover what to do when your equipment down south isn't functioning properly (including a rather embarrassing story of my own experience with ED).

Today, however, is all about the practicals of how to keep your homie healthy and happy.

I still remember in my early years of watching hardcore p**n seeing a video title that was entirely about the appendage of the male performer.

"That's weird" I thought to myself. "Why would I care about the dude?"

So I kept scrolling.

But as time went on, as I...

When I was watching p**n on a regular basis, I was VERY aware of just how damaging sin can be.

My confidence was shot.
I felt like a shell of myself.
The sense of feeling disconnected from God was overwhelming.

And I was severely hindering my chances of getting married.

Sin is costly.

Not only from the “upfront” costs that we are keenly aware of, but also because of the collateral.

Sometimes, the reason sin persists in our lives is because the first time we committed the sin, we drew a conclusion about ourselves that enables the sin to continue.

You had an affair? You’re an adulterer.
You watch p**n? You’re a pervert.
You struggle with lust? You’re a sinner.

If you’re an adulterer by identity, then would you not continue to have adulterous interactions?

If you’re a pervert, what’s to stop you from continuing to watch p**n?

You get the idea.

The world would have you believe that your behavior dictates your identity, but in the Kingdom of...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Community Is Overrated (for real)

Hey man,

Let me ask you something...

Raise your virtual hand if In the last year, have you heard a message about the importance of community on a...

-Podcast
-Sermon
-YouTube video
-IG/FB/TikTok post

... (apologies if your skin tone wasn't included).

If we extended that to the last 2 years, or 5 years, it would be hands up all over the place. 

Messages of community are RAMPANT. And for good reason.

But to kick this thing off with the punchline...community is terribly overrated.

"What happened to you Sathiya? I thought community was the bedrock of recovery. Connection is the opposite of addiction, therefore we need to plug-in to community, right?"

Absolutely. 100%. Still stand by all of that.

But I equally stand with the statement that community is overrated.

Just like "being present"...

Family is one of the most beautiful and complicated words in the English language.

God’s design for this thing called life is that we would experience it in the context of a safe, loving and empowering family environment.

Some of you reading this were actually fortunate enough to have an experience that matches the description above.

Many of you were not.

And some of you may not know where you land.

Personally, as a family led by immigrant parents, the question I always had rolling around in my head was “Are we normal?”

We ate different food. 
Spoke different languages. 
And didn’t really “look the part” (I grew up in the prairies to give some context lol).

As society is beginning to uncover the supreme value of childhood as a whole, parent-child relationships, and mother-father dynamics in our development, there are some risks that come with it.

One risk is that we blame all of our problems on childhood. We see this happen in our...

Family is one of the most beautiful and complicated words in the English language.

God’s design for this thing called life is that we would experience it in the context of a safe, loving and empowering family environment.

Some of you reading this were actually fortunate enough to have an experience that matches the description above.

Many of you were not.

And some of you may not know where you land.

Personally, as a family led by immigrant parents, the question I always had rolling around in my head was “Are we normal?”

We ate different food. 
Spoke different languages. 
And didn’t really “look the part” (I grew up in the prairies to give some context lol).

As society is beginning to uncover the supreme value of childhood as a whole, parent-child relationships, and mother-father dynamics in our development, there are some risks that come with it.

One risk is that we blame all of our problems on childhood. We see this happen in our...

He who finds a wife finds a good ting, and obtains favor from the LORD – Prov 18:22 (Jamaican version).

When I was single people used to always tell me that you have to choose your spouse carefully because it is the second most important decision you’ll ever make.

(The first being giving your life to Jesus).

In hindsight, they were right. But I wish someone would have told me why.

There’s a scripture in 1 Corinthians 15 that says “bad company corrupts good character.”

In other words, you can be the most incredible human being in the world, but if you’re surrounded by the wrong people, it won’t matter.

Something I’ve realized lately is that your spouse winds up being your “company” for the rest of your life.

And they will either corrupt or enhance your character, integrity, calling, etc.

I can say with all my heart, my wife is the best company a guy could ask for.

She makes me a better man, and she challenges me to grow in...

Well, we’re no longer on the sunny beaches of Jamaica, but a guy can still dream right?

We’ve been home for a few weeks now and it is becoming very clear that this year is about stabilizing.

Last year, we traveled a ton, took on lots of new adventures, and made some improvements to our home.

This is a year to settle, enjoy the fruits of our labor, and dig roots into the local community.

Shaloma and I have made a weekly practice of reflecting on the past week, worshiping & praying together, and then planning the week ahead.

Something we’ve observed is how much we have to be grateful for on a daily basis, but how easily we overlook it.

Many times I find myself saying, “Man, we have a good life.”

Things are far from perfect. There are challenges too.

But any time I take a moment to reflect on the life we’re living and the things God has done and is doing in our lives…

I can’t help but be overwhelmed with gratitude.

Life has its...