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Marriage Doesn't Fix Your Problems

Uncategorized Oct 28, 2021

There are four magnifiers in life - time, authority, money and marriage. What do they magnify?


If you want to see what you’re really made of, endure any or a combination of those four things.

When I was in my early 20s, at the peak of my porn addiction (or trough depending on how you look at it), a mentor taught me this principle. It instantly clicked. I realized how wrong I was to think that marriage would cure my issues with p0rn and masturbation. If anything, it would make them worse.

So I went to work. First, will power. Then, internet filters. Then, accountability partners. Then an internet filter with a built-in accountability partner. They were all good, just incomplete. Several binge-purge cycles later, I had enough. I needed something that was going to help me stay free long-term.

All the while, I prayed that God would keep my spouse on hold. I was dying to meet her, but I needed to fix this p0rn thing first.

Many programs, counseling appointments, personal coaching sessions, and breakthroughs later, things look different now. February 2016 was the last time I viewed and gratified. In November 2016, I met Shaloma. In September 2019, we got married (just celebrated 2 years last month)! We haven’t looked back since.

I am often asked, “How did you get into this line of work?” That one is easy – I prayed for it. When I started to earnestly pursue freedom with professional help and programs, I wasn’t just thinking of my future spouse. I was thinking of you.

I was bound and determined to find freedom so that I could help as many other men as possible find freedom too. So I prayed that God would help me shake the shackles of sexual misbehavior so that I could help others do the same. 

Now 5.5+ years later, I am the founder of DeepClean, a program that has helped 120+ men in 10 countries experience the same kind of freedom.

Every week, I put aside time in my calendar to speak with people like you who are sick and tired of dealing with the same cycles of behavior too. People who are serious about making a lasting change in their life, knowing that their future success depends on it. I look for men who know that the call on their life and the people who matter the most to them are way too valuable to continue struggling.

If that’s you, the link is right HERE. Book a time in my calendar and let’s talk. Freedom has never been closer.

Cheering you on,

PS. When you click on the link, you’ll be directed to a video that explains the program. I ask that you watch this first to ensure that DeepClean is a good fit. If it isn’t, then it doesn’t make sense for you to get on a call and waste your precious time.

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