Almost every guy I know wants to get free of porn so they can help other guys. Some guys have big ambitions like starting a ministry/business of their own one day, others simply want to make a difference in their small group or family.
No matter the scale or environment, it is extremely noble. In fact, I myself had the same ambitions when I was addicted. I wanted to get free so I could help others get free too.
So the question is when? When are you able to help others? Do you have to be free for a certain number of days/weeks/months/years?
The answer is – no.
The reality is that you can help people right now. You may not be ready to start your own ministry/business, but that doesn't mean you can't offer help.
"Woah woah Sathiya are you sure? Don't I have to go to school first or at least have a few years of freedom under my belt?"
You may need to do that if you want to start something official. But the truth is that you have something to offer the guys around you right now. Something that they need. Something that every single guy on the planet has...
You have an experience to share. And you don't have to pretend you have it all figured out while you're sharing either! You can be upfront about your situation and where you're at. You can share about the things you've learned and the things you've yet to learn.
When I was 21 years old, I was leading worship at a camp and felt the Holy Spirit nudge me to talk about my struggle with pornography. I was smack in the middle of trying to get free, and this was one of the hardest seasons of my life in this area. I was caught in a rampant binge-purge cycle.
I was scared, but I knew it was the right thing to do. So I shared. And afterward, the "cool kids" of the camp came up to me and said, "that was a cool story man."
That was it. Nothing spectacular or glamorous. Just a nice little comment from the cool guys club, and that alone made it worth it. The really cool thing happened a few days later when each of those guys responded to an altar call and gave their lives to Jesus. I can't imagine I had much to do with that, but I know that sharing my story played a part.
Your life doesn't have to be perfect. You don't have to be fully recovered. You don't need to have all the answers. The sooner you start sharing your story and helping others with what you have to offer (as you feel comfortable), the better. By no means is this an excuse for settling and not getting counseling/coaching/the help you need.
But don't be too held back either, there are plenty of people around you that are longing to hear your story. You never know how it might change their life.
Cheering you on,
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