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Uncategorized Feb 03, 2022

These are the faces of two very excited Toronto Raptor fans circa June 2019. For the first time in the history of the franchise, Canada’s only NBA team was on top of the basketball world. My wife and I basically celebrated for 2 days straight. This picture was taken as we got ready for the championship parade through downtown Toronto.

I’ve been struck lately by watching sports in empty arenas as another wave of COVID starts to impact our day-to-day functioning. An empty sports arena just seems plain wrong. What is the point if there aren’t copious amounts of cheering fans to enjoy the display of athleticism and raw talent?!

Recently, while watching my beloved Toronto Raptors play the New York Knicks in an empty Scotiabank Arena, I realized how lonely I felt watching the game. How odd! If you would have asked me two years ago what I love most about watching sports, it would have been an easy response.

The players. The talent. The entertainment.

But I realized that there is a massive communal component that comes from simply watching the game with fans in the stands. It makes me feel like I’m part of something bigger than myself. We’re all cheering for the same team and hoping it helps them achieve their desired result.

It’s a wonderful example of the power of community. For years I tried to pursue freedom from pornography alone, only to fall flat on my face again and again. It wasn’t until I had a group of people around me cheering me on that I started to deshame, heal and renew.

The fun part about being in a community is that you get to be a player and a fan. You are on the court doing the hard work pursuing freedom, but you also get to cheer on your fellow men as they pursue freedom as well.

If you are still doing this thing alone, please stop. You are stunting your progress and amplifying the loneliness caused by sexual misbehavior. There are plenty of great options out there. If you’re looking for a community integrated with a systematic process for lasting freedom, check out DeepClean

A few other communities that I personally recommend are and Husband Material.

Cheering you on,

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