Dealing with Uncertainty in Life

One of my friends recently pointed out that as the world starts to settle down from the pandemic (in a majority of places) and we are eagerly awaiting a return to some degree of normalcy, we are now faced with a war that has global implications.

So much for settling down!

I still remember in March 2020, my boss called an emergency staff meeting to explain that we were going to start working from home for 2 weeks. By April 1, 2020, the pandemic would be over and things would be back to normal.

So much for normal!

I told everyone I knew many years ago that I was going to become a psychiatrist – it was my ultimate goal in life. Then I gave my life to Christ and God called me to full-time ministry.

So much for med school!

The only thing that is certain in life is uncertainty.

While that may be frustrating to hear for someone like me who enjoys meticulous scheduling, spreadsheets, and 20-year visions, the reality is we all need to build capacity for flexibility.

If we don’t, we live in survival mode. This state is often where slips begin to happen. I don’t know a lot of people who wake up and consciously choose to watch porn or commit adultery. 

Usually it is some form of dysregulation that goes unaddressed and eventually leads to poorer and poorer decisions.

You know why the dysregulation goes unaddressed? Because we wait for external circumstances to restore our regulation, instead of acknowledging our responsibility in the matter.

Regulating yourself in times like these may look like:

• Redefining what “normal” is
• Adjusting expectations for day-to-day life 
• Lavishing self-compassion as you acclimate
• Setting boundaries with time, relationships, device engagement, etc. to mitigate triggers
• Engaging in hobbies and activities where you can clear your mind (like the gym)
• Making an effort to selflessly serve those around you even when your brain is telling you to focus on survival

We live in some pretty crazy times, and they may not be slowing down anytime soon. Let’s not wait for that. Instead, acknowledge what you can control and take massive responsibility for it.

Cheering you on,
Sathiya