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Clinical Breakdown: The Three Indicators That You Are Addicted To Porn

Uncategorized Jun 09, 2022

At the end of the day, the real question is – are you addicted? Sure you watch here and there...that doesn't mean you're addicted right? You can quit whenever you want, right? It just hasn't happened yet because "life got in the way"...right? The reality is that addiction often comes disguised and today's blog explains the REAL indicators of an addiction to pornography.

In addition to the flawed justifications ("at least my situation's not as bad as so-and-so"), enabling loved ones ("Oh it's not that bad. He's doing his best I'm sure"), and good intentions to deal with it one day ("It's just not great timing right now. If it's still around when XYZ happens, then I'll do something about it"), researchers are beginning to uncover more reliable indicators that a porn addiction is present.

While this may be an uncomfortable truth to broach, understanding your situation better means you will be able to find a more effective solution.

There are at least 3 indicators of porn addiction according to . If you have even one of these present in your life, it is cause for concern and you should take your situation very seriously. I explain what next steps might look like below.

Indicator #1 – Excessive Time Spent
This one is pretty self-explanatory – the only question is, what counts as 'excessive'? Simple math usually clarifies this one. Let's say you watch porn on average 2 hours a week. Sure, some weeks you hardly watch, and other weeks you watch way more, but let's assume it all averages out to roughly 2 hrs/week. And let's say you've been struggling for 10 years. That's over 6 WEEKS spent watching porn per decade! That sounds excessive to me. What would you do if I gave you 6 weeks of your life back?

Indicator #2 – Loss of Control
This is when you begin to notice that porn has much more of a grip on you than you realized. It usually happens one of two ways – you either try to quit and realize it's much harder than you thought it would be OR you discover that porn has a much more central role in your life than you thought. When I was at the worst of my addiction, I would plan my days around when I would watch porn. That was a very good indicator that I had lost control of the situation.

If you are turning down social events, showing up late to work, watching at work or in high-risk situations, all of these are indicators you've lost control.
If you've tried to quit before and came back to it at the same, or worse, frequency and intensity, then you have lost control of the situation.

Indicator #3 – Negative Consequences to Self and Others
This is broad ranging. Here are a few categories and some examples of what this might entail.

Relational – Significant other doesn't trust you because of your addiction; significant other is in the dark about your addiction because you are too afraid to tell her;
Spiritual – You feel ashamed about what you've done, intend to stop, but cannot; you feel disconnected from God; you wonder if your calling in life will actually be fulfilled
Emotional – Mood swings; bursts of anger; depression; anxiety; unable to connect on a deep meaningful level; numbness
Mental – Low self-esteem and confidence; brain fog; memory loss; fantasy and recalling scenes/images frequently;
Financial – Serious time spent watching; money spent on subscriptions, escorts, etc;
Vocational – Loss of opportunity for promotion due to low performance at work; work loses its joy; unable to form healthy relationships with colleagues
Social – Declining social invitations; not initiating time with friends or forging new friendships; awkward and uncomfortable being around others; unable to engage on a deep meaningful level;
Physical – Erectile dysfunction; low libido/sexual stamina; fatigue;

If you have just one of these indicators, your situation requires attention. The sooner you act, the better. Typically these situations only develop in one direction without intervention.
If you have two of these indicators, your situation requires professional help – make sure you solution involves community.
If you have all three of these indicators, it is time to take a leap and do something different before things get worse – at this point, a proven program or something that is comprehensive is recommended.

Our program may be a good fit if you are interested in resolving the roots of your issue and eliminating the adverse effects of porn addiction from your life permanently. Visit www.getadeepclean.com to learn our system.

Cheering you on,
Sathiya

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