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Choosing vs Deciding

Uncategorized Nov 18, 2021

Cheese or no cheese? That is the question I asked myself as I chose between these two beef patties. In case you’ve had Jamaican patties before in a place that was not Jamaica, I just want to let you know it wasn’t even close to the deliciousness of these two bad boys. They taste different here for some reason. But I digress.

Recently, in one of my masterminds, I heard a phrase that I haven’t been able to shake. Before I share it with you, allow me to give a little context.

Freedom 101 is that freedom means you have choice. If you are enslaved to pornography, masturbation, and/or any other sexual behavior, you have little to no choice when a temptation or urge arises. The lack of choice limits your freedom.

Someone with sexual freedom has choice. They will experience temptation, arousal, and urges, but they have multiple options in those moments. These concepts have been the foundation of DeepClean since its inception in December 2018 (hard to believe we are coming up on THREE years!).

Lately, I have had a lot of opportunities to share my story and the work that we are doing here at DeepClean (I’ve been on 40+ podcasts this year so far).

Every time I share my story, I am reminded that getting free of pornography was more than a choice, it was a decision, which leads me to this gem of a phrase that has left its mark on me:

Choices can be reversed. Decisions cannot. Choices have options, decisions eliminate them.

This statement doesn’t change our definition of freedom, but it profoundly articulates the essence of every man that has made a full recovery from pornography.

You may choose to get free and give it your best shot. That’s fine. But a decision is different. When you decide you’re going to get free of porn. There are no other options. You WILL find a way to do it. Period.

I made that decision in Winter 2012. It took 3.5 more years before I kissed pornography goodbye, but freedom was my only option all along. It just took a bit of time to get there.

The beautiful thing is that freedom does not play favorites. It is not for the select. Anyone can make up their mind and set course on a journey to a full recovery.

Are you tired of choosing freedom? Maybe it’s time to make a decision. If that’s you, and you need some help “eliminating the other options”, click here to apply for DeepClean Signature, our most effective recovery program.

To be free or not to be free? The choice decision is yours.

Cheering you on,

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