762 - Integrity 2.0
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[00:00:00] Sathiya Sam: [00:00:05] [00:00:10] [00:00:15] [00:00:20] [00:00:25] [00:00:30] What is up my man? It's Satya Sam here. [00:00:35] Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you so much for listening. It's an honor to have you here [00:00:40] and I'm super excited. We're going to jump into today's content. Before I do that, thank you to [00:00:45] those of you who are sharing our content, leaving ratings and reviews.
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[00:01:08] Sathiya Sam: And so I'd love to see you over there. [00:01:10] If you're not already subscribed to make sure you do that, the link is in the show notes and we'll see you [00:01:15] there. Okay. Uh, what we're going to jump into today is integrity. 2. 0. [00:01:20] Um, it's funny. I actually was going to call this redefining integrity. Um, and then I realized [00:01:25] that actually I did an episode called redefining integrity, uh, almost a year ago to the [00:01:30] date.
[00:01:30] Sathiya Sam: Not quite, but in March 2023, um, [00:01:35] integrity is, is a subject that I've thought about a lot. And I'm sure you can imagine why, you know, [00:01:40] grew up Christian. pastor's kid, eventually a pastor myself, [00:01:45] struggled with a porn addiction for a majority of that time, 15 years [00:01:50] and wanted to live in integrity. Didn't always feel like I was doing it, but then at the same time I was, [00:01:55] I was a really good dude.
[00:01:56] Sathiya Sam: You know, it's not like I was some terrible person. I lived with tons of [00:02:00] integrity and tons of other areas of my life. And so I've often wrestled with this subject because [00:02:05] my, my heart's cry. Is to walk in integrity. You know, I want, [00:02:10] I want God to look at me and see Sophia, a man of integrity, a man who [00:02:15] does what he says, a man that is reliable, a man that is consistent.
[00:02:19] Sathiya Sam: In his [00:02:20] lifestyle and I've worked hard to, to, you know, step more and more [00:02:25] in that direction. Uh, but still tons of areas to improve and, and, you know, falling short all the [00:02:30] time, but I've, I've found some language recently. And, uh, this is part of [00:02:35] kind of a, we're doing a bit of an overhaul. It's sort of with the company and, um, in, in a lot of [00:02:40] different areas, especially on the brand side of things.
[00:02:42] Sathiya Sam: And in some of the conversations I've been [00:02:45] having, It's brought some really good stuff in me that I haven't really been able to articulate before. And [00:02:50] one of the questions was, you know, why do you care about helping guys quit pornography? And, [00:02:55] um, there's obvious answers like, you know, pornography is destroying their lives.
[00:02:59] Sathiya Sam: So [00:03:00] I want them to have better lives. And, you know, pornography is hindering people spiritually and [00:03:05] it's stopping us from walking in holiness and, you know, doing the things God's called us to [00:03:10] do. And so this gives us a chance to. To do those things, you know, if we can quit porn, we can [00:03:15] walk in our coins and whatever.
[00:03:16] Sathiya Sam: And that's language I've used before. And, you know, we, we've previously defined [00:03:20] integrity on the podcast is, you know, doing the right thing nine times out of 10 [00:03:25] and willing to take on the consequences. [00:03:30] That 10 percent of the time that you fall short. I like that definition [00:03:35] and I want to build on it a little bit today based on what's come out of some of [00:03:40] these conversations.
[00:03:42] Sathiya Sam: One of the things that drove me crazy when [00:03:45] I was addicted to pornography is the sense of [00:03:50] hypocrisy because I am a good guy and I am genuine and I am [00:03:55] sincere and I, and I am a man of my word, you know, for the most part, and it bugged me [00:04:00] that people knew most of me and saw me for who I was, but [00:04:05] there was this part of my life that no one knew about, you know, it was protected.
[00:04:09] Sathiya Sam: It was [00:04:10] walked away. And I've been, I've been trying to kind of put [00:04:15] language to why did that bother me so much and why is that not integrity, you know, [00:04:20] and it's, it's allowed me to actually construct, uh, what I would [00:04:25] call as a new definition of integrity, um, that we're looking to sort of insert [00:04:30] into the work that we're doing.
[00:04:31] Sathiya Sam: Um, and I'm excited to share it with you guys. I think, I think you're going to find it [00:04:35] really helpful actually. So, so the, the basic premise here is there's [00:04:40] two. There's two elements that come with integrity. Okay. [00:04:45] One is the conviction of what integrity [00:04:50] is. If you ask two different people, you know, [00:04:55] what does it mean to have integrity?
[00:04:57] Sathiya Sam: They'll, they might give you similar definitions, but then, [00:05:00] then you might ask, well, um, you know, let's be controversial, you know, [00:05:05] if a woman. Um, is sexually abused [00:05:10] and gets pregnant out of that sexual abuse and she decides to not [00:05:15] have the child. She aborts the baby because she doesn't, she doesn't want it.
[00:05:18] Sathiya Sam: She's not ready for it, whatever the [00:05:20] reason is. And she is convinced that's the right thing to do. [00:05:25] She's, you know, whatever the arguments are, she's making the world a better [00:05:30] place by not having this baby raised in a really broken home by a broken mother. And [00:05:35] you know, whatever, whatever, there's lots of arguments.
[00:05:37] Sathiya Sam: And again, I'm not trying to go too far there. [00:05:40] Um, she has a conviction of what it means to do the right thing. Um, and if you're [00:05:45] like me and you're more conservative leaning, you would probably then agree that the right thing to do actually would be [00:05:50] maybe to not abort the baby to keep him to raise him to the best or to her to the best of your [00:05:55] abilities.
[00:05:55] Sathiya Sam: Um, and in the process, you know, um, hope that that [00:06:00] God grants you the wisdom and you make the most of it, but you don't, you don't abort because [00:06:05] abortion is so, um, harsh, you know, that's, that's murder. [00:06:10] So conviction, right? Two different convictions. But [00:06:15] what would make, what would make that person living with integrity?
[00:06:19] Sathiya Sam: It's, it's [00:06:20] when the lifestyle or the decisions match the conviction. And in fact, [00:06:25] I'll actually give you a really cool story of somebody that, that I, I know that [00:06:30] I'm actually relatively close with that had this exact experience, went to an abortion clinic and [00:06:35] while waiting. To do some of the paperwork, heard the Holy Spirit say, [00:06:40] I want you to have this baby and she dropped the clipboard and she walked out and she's, [00:06:45] she's due very soon, very proud of her for making that decision.
[00:06:49] Sathiya Sam: Uh, not, not easy [00:06:50] to do. Um, but that's a great example of somebody who had a [00:06:55] conviction and she was getting mixed opinions and mixed voices on what to do. [00:07:00] And while she's in the clinic, she's [00:07:05] realizing that the decision she's making is not flush with the convictions of her heart. And the [00:07:10] Holy Spirit helps her realize this.
[00:07:13] Sathiya Sam: So [00:07:15] what do we get from all this? Well, we, we get that integrity is [00:07:20] actually when there is no gap. Between [00:07:25] conviction and lifestyle. Integrity is no [00:07:30] gap between conviction and lifestyle. [00:07:35] And what I want to encourage you in today is if you look at your [00:07:40] life and there's areas. That are painfully [00:07:45] obvious where conviction and lifestyle are miles [00:07:50] apart.
[00:07:51] Sathiya Sam: Those areas need to be addressed [00:07:55] because when we fail to live in integrity, when we, when we fail to observe [00:08:00] biblical integrity, you and I are shells of the people that [00:08:05] God has designed us to be. You know, when I look, when I look at my own life, [00:08:10] It's interesting because I think about the last probably two years of recovery, [00:08:15] and I actually start to have a lot more confidence.
[00:08:18] Sathiya Sam: I start to get more [00:08:20] opportunities professionally. I started to grow in many areas of my life and [00:08:25] I wasn't even fully free yet, but I was narrowing the [00:08:30] gap between integrity and lifestyle. I was making an earnest effort [00:08:35] for those things to be seamless. You know, without any [00:08:40] kind of notable gap between the two.
[00:08:43] Sathiya Sam: And am I perfect [00:08:45] today? Of course not. Plenty of areas that I can narrow this gap in. But the point I'm making [00:08:50] is there are areas right now in your life where, you know, there's a lack of integrity. There's, [00:08:55] there's a lack of congruency between conviction and [00:09:00] lifestyle. And I want to implore you. Rather than sweeping those areas under the [00:09:05] rug, tackle them head on.
[00:09:07] Sathiya Sam: Now is the time because on the other side [00:09:10] of integrity is growth is opportunity is health is [00:09:15] connection is spirituality. There, there are things that are [00:09:20] suffocating. There are things that have been put on hold because of that gap. And if [00:09:25] we can really get ahold of this. The world can become a better place.
[00:09:29] Sathiya Sam: Honestly, [00:09:30] I'm so convinced if we change the man, we change the world. That's why this podcast exists. Change the [00:09:35] man, change the world. And how do you change the man? Will you help him live in more integrity? You, [00:09:40] you eliminate the gap between conviction and lifestyle. So there are two sides. [00:09:45] Of the same coin, that's what I'm dreaming about for you guys.
[00:09:48] Sathiya Sam: And that's what I want to invite you [00:09:50] into today. And look, you know what area that is. Maybe it is a porn addiction or some sexual misbehavior. [00:09:55] Maybe it's something else with your finances or, or at work, or, you know, with your friends or, [00:10:00] or I don't know, but wherever the consistency is, you know, physical health is another big one.
[00:10:04] Sathiya Sam: Wherever the [00:10:05] inconsistency might be. I want to encourage you [00:10:10] tackle it today. And tackle it head on. Um, and you're listening to this [00:10:15] podcast. This is a great place for you to get some help. If you are looking for recovery help, we have a book called the [00:10:20] last relapse. Uh, we offer strategy calls for people who are interested in our program.
[00:10:23] Sathiya Sam: It's all there. It's available [00:10:25] to you, but do something. Let's narrow that gap so that more [00:10:30] changed men can make this world a better place. Hey, God bless you guys. Thank you so much for [00:10:35] listening. We'll talk soon. [00:10:40] [00:10:45] [00:10:50] [00:10:55] [00:11:00] [00:11:05] [00:11:10] [00:11:15] [00:11:20] [00:11:25] [00:11:30] [00:11:35] [00:11:40] [00:11:45] [00:11:50] [00:11:55] [00:12:00]