756 - Man's Role In Sex Ed
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[00:00:30] Yo, yo, what's up, my man? It's Sathya Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. [00:00:35] Thank you so much for listening. I hope you're having a fantastic day. And I'm super [00:00:40] excited to jump into today's content. Uh, we're going to be talking about the sex ed [00:00:45] curriculum. Dun, dun, dun. What the heck are you talking about, Sathya?
[00:00:48] This has nothing to do with [00:00:50] queen porn. Uh, yes, it does. And, uh, you're going to see exactly how [00:00:55] all of this ties together. Um, because again, I don't know where you guys live. We have listeners [00:01:00] from all around the world. But in Canada, where I live and in the States where I [00:01:05] am often visiting, um, and even Jamaica where I live in the, in the winter for a little bit.
[00:01:09] [00:01:10] Um, yeah, there are a lot of conversations happening about sex ed and changes to [00:01:15] the curriculum, all that kind of good stuff. And so we're going to get into it. And, um, [00:01:20] and trust me, the role of pornography is quintessential. And I will just say, um, if [00:01:25] you are a parent, Or you want to be a parent one day.
[00:01:29] Okay, either [00:01:30] of the two. You need to listen to today's content because it's going to be really, really helpful for you. [00:01:35] Before I jump into that, um, look, this is sort of an overhaul month for us with the podcast. You're going [00:01:40] to notice an elevation in the quality of just the whole experience from the [00:01:45] audio to the show notes and the transcripts and all that stuff, um, all the way to video.
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[00:02:25] Just click the link in the show notes. That'll do everything that you need to do. [00:02:30] Let's get into it. So, uh, like I mentioned, you know, the sex ed curriculum has become [00:02:35] a hot button topic and in Canada where I am based, the [00:02:40] main problem that I personally am observing there is that the [00:02:45] level of graphic Transcription by CastingWords sexual content that is being [00:02:50] taught or that is being inserted in the curriculum is not age appropriate.
[00:02:54] So [00:02:55] that's the first thing. Now there's also issues with transgenderism [00:03:00] and, homosexuality and those kinds of things as well. But to me, the actual [00:03:05] greatest concern is the exposure of the graphic content and even the way that pornography is [00:03:10] portrayed in a lot of these more If I can say [00:03:15] liberal curriculum is really disturbing and very [00:03:20] problematic because it is not age appropriate.
[00:03:22] Now, I do think that by the time children have [00:03:25] devices in their hands, they probably do need to be informed about pornography. [00:03:30] Um, it's more of the detail. It's the extent of it. It's all that kind of stuff. Um, [00:03:35] it's a huge problem. The, interesting thing, like [00:03:40] let's think about the whole language we're using.
[00:03:43] So [00:03:45] sex ed, a sexual. Education. So [00:03:50] the, you know, the goal of the education system is to educate our [00:03:55] children. It's for them to be learned and informed on [00:04:00] subject matter that is relevant to them being functional in society, and hopefully [00:04:05] having a respectable quality of life. [00:04:10] So. Sex education should contribute to that.
[00:04:13] It should allow them to be [00:04:15] informed. Um, it should allow them to make decisions for themselves [00:04:20] that they can stand by, but decisions that nonetheless have the correct [00:04:25] information, the correct facts, and it should allow them to eventually have very [00:04:30] healthy and fruitful However, you want to define those two [00:04:35] words of healthy and fruitful is up to you.
[00:04:37] But the point is there should not be really any [00:04:40] dysfunction or disorder. And we know these are ideals and the education system [00:04:45] doesn't always fulfill on ideals. In fact, it almost never does. [00:04:50] Again, we're casting a little vision here. Of what sex ed [00:04:55] should be accomplishing now in a nationally representative survey.
[00:04:58] This is in the [00:05:00] states, a quarter of 18 to 24 year olds listed porn as their most [00:05:05] helpful source of information. On how to have sex. So that's interesting, [00:05:10] you know, cause you would hope it's the education system if they're doing a good job. [00:05:15] Uh, but this would suggest that it's actually pornography. And the one thing to [00:05:20] remember is when you do surveys with people concerning pornography [00:05:25] is that the numbers are always under reported, right?
[00:05:29] Like [00:05:30] not everybody's going to tell the truth and that might be true of surveys in general, but [00:05:35] honestly kind of depends on the content, but. You know, if you're asking people [00:05:40] about their porn use and you know, do they think porn is helpful for educating them? Well, that means they have to admit that they are [00:05:45] watching porn and some people just won't do that So even though the percentage was [00:05:50] 25 It's probably a lot higher than that and the number is [00:05:55] on the rise now.
[00:05:56] This is a problem, right? Because we know [00:06:00] that what pornography depicts as sex is [00:06:05] grossly exaggerated. It's grossly inaccurate, and it's just plain [00:06:10] gross. So pornography is a terrible, terrible, terrible teacher. [00:06:15] And I, I would be in that stat. And if I was in the 18 to 24 year old [00:06:20] category, or when I was in that age group, I don't think I would have admitted that porn had taught me [00:06:25] the most about sex, even though Factually, [00:06:30] it was true.
[00:06:31] You know, my parents didn't have the sex talk. The sex talks at school [00:06:35] were pretty lame, very uninformative. And the only other contender [00:06:40] could have been my peers. Um, but again, my peers were all primarily [00:06:45] informed by pornography, so it all kind of comes back to the same place. [00:06:50] So porn is a bad teacher.
[00:06:51] Terrible, terrible teacher, doesn't help, does not [00:06:55] lead to healthy and fruitful sex lives. is for sure. [00:07:00] Now, an interesting thing is that the porn industry has observed [00:07:05] that children getting exposed at a young age is very good for their business model, [00:07:10] right? Because early exposure means a stronger likelihood of addiction [00:07:15] and a stronger likelihood of addiction means continual traffic to their site.
[00:07:19] [00:07:20] Continual traffic to their site means more ad revenue. Ad revenue means more [00:07:25] money in their pockets. And so from a business standpoint, the porn industry has [00:07:30] actually very shrewdly targeted children because they know that if they [00:07:35] can get children hooked on it early, they're much more likely to be lifetime [00:07:40] clients.
[00:07:41] So you could make an argument [00:07:45] from all of this that look porn is a problem. They're targeting our kids and our kids are now getting [00:07:50] educated by pornography. And so, you know, we need to shut down the porn industry. That would [00:07:55] be one side of it. The other side of it, I suppose, is, you know, we could say, Well, the sex curriculum, [00:08:00] the sex ed curriculum, rather, really needs to be improved.
[00:08:03] Like, that we need [00:08:05] to change that there because if we can inform them properly in the school system, then they won't look to [00:08:10] pornography and da da da da da. You know, there's, there's some argument there. But here's what [00:08:15] I'll say. Improving the sex ed curriculum is the third [00:08:20] line of defense. All right? The third line.
[00:08:24] That means [00:08:25] there's two better solutions. To actually [00:08:30] improving this whole situation. And the second would be addressing [00:08:35] children's early exposure to pornography. And actually. We're seeing some pretty good progress [00:08:40] here. You know, some states are actually requiring age verification in more [00:08:45] astute measures than simply checking a box or saying, I agree that I'm over 18 years old, [00:08:50] so we're seeing progress there.
[00:08:51] But even that is still second line. You want to know what the [00:08:55] first line is to really improving. Our children's experience of sexual [00:09:00] education. It's in the home. Okay. Parents have a unique opportunity [00:09:05] to be a trusted voice of reason on what I would say is a mission [00:09:10] critical subject. And I know, I know it's not always comfortable to have these.
[00:09:14] In [00:09:15] fact, usually it's uncomfortable, especially if you're like me and you grew up Christian and conservative, [00:09:20] and these conversations weren't done very well, you might have to pioneer something new, [00:09:25] but here's what I can say. If you provide your child with a safe and [00:09:30] open space to discuss sexuality, that is the [00:09:35] most effective way to inform and empower them [00:09:40] in their sexuality.
[00:09:43] So, the onus is [00:09:45] actually on us. We have to take the responsibility and play our role [00:09:50] in educating our kids. We are not supposed to outsource education to the [00:09:55] government. We can't rely on public schools to just do their thing. Okay, [00:10:00] that's just not the way it's supposed to be. And we certainly don't want to outsource this [00:10:05] component to pornography or the online world.
[00:10:08] That is a disaster waiting [00:10:10] to happen. Men, I'm urging you take the ownership, take [00:10:15] responsibility for your children's sexual education, their sexual health. If you are willing to be [00:10:20] the loudest voice in their ear about that, the first voice in their ear about it, I'm telling you [00:10:25] their lives will evolve and develop in a much much [00:10:30] healthier way.
[00:10:30] Now there's one caveat here because many men [00:10:35] actually won't have this conversation because they feel disqualified. You know, maybe you were [00:10:40] promiscuous, maybe you are struggling with porn addiction and you feel like a [00:10:45] hypocrite. Um, maybe you don't want your kids to find out about your shortcomings because if they find out [00:10:50] that you fell short and they're going to set the bar lower and they're going to make all the same mistakes you did.
[00:10:54] [00:10:55] That's all a crock of crap. Okay. That's not. [00:11:00] And here's the deal. I understand. I know that you might feel like a hypocrite. You might feel disqualified. [00:11:05] That part's legitimate. Okay. I don't want to invalidate that part. But what I want to urge you to do is to [00:11:10] still make a step anyway. Okay. Make a step. Have the [00:11:15] conversations.
[00:11:15] Maybe have them lightly. But it's better you have them even a little bit than not have them at all. [00:11:20] And here's the other part of this, okay? If you are living a double life, or [00:11:25] there's, there's a lack of integrity here, and you want to see things a little bit more flush, do [00:11:30] something about it. Get the help you need.
[00:11:32] Get clean. Because I'm telling you, if you [00:11:35] are willing to put in the work, uh, maybe a short, concentrated period of time, get the [00:11:40] momentum in the right direction, then you can have these conversations. With good faith, good conscience, [00:11:45] not feeling like a hypocrite and probably carrying a lot more authority on the matter as well and being [00:11:50] able to impart that into your kids and who wouldn't want that?
[00:11:53] I mean, that could go a really long way. [00:11:55] So there's a lot of things to consider here, but here's, here's what I want you to get first and foremost. Number [00:12:00] one is. We are responsible for our kids sex education first [00:12:05] before anyone else's. And secondly, if you don't feel like you can be [00:12:10] responsible in good conscience and good faith, do something about it so that you can your kids [00:12:15] and their kids are depending on it.
[00:12:17] And you just don't know. They might talk about [00:12:20] grandpa one day who changed the entire trajectory of this family because he quit addiction. He [00:12:25] lived a life of integrity. He lived in sexual health and he was able to impart that. [00:12:30] To his children and his children were able to impart to their children and many generations [00:12:35] after walked in holiness purity And health because of you you [00:12:40] just don't know how your life might change hundreds of others in the future So that's everything [00:12:45] for today guys I hope that helps and look if you are looking for some help quitting pornography You can book a call [00:12:50] with our team.
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