Resources For Wives
No woman should experience betrayal. Get the help you deserve.
Is Your Husband's Addiction Taking A Toll?
It is no secret that behind the millions of men struggling with porn addiction is a trail of loving wives who need help too.
His addiction has likely damaged your marriage, your personal health, and maybe even your children's lives.
The fact that you are seeking help speaks volumes about your commitment, virtue and integrity. Well done.
Women who seek help with betrayal trauma are much more likely to experience a healthy marriage (regardless of whether or not your husband seeks help for his addiction).
While DeepClean does not currently treat women, below are a few resources to help you begin your healing journey.
Finding The Right Solution
There is not necessarily a formula to this, but we recommend the following as you seek a solution and peruse the resources:
- Start Light – Reading blogs and listening to podcasts is a great way to get informed, and to become acquainted with professionals in this space that might be able to help you.
- Community – Make sure that your solution doesn't exclusively involve talking 1-on-1 with a professional. Having a safe community of other women who are experiencing similar things will go a long way in your healing journey.
- Pray – Invite God into this process and ask Him to lead you to the right people, communities, and resources.
FAQs
Should I Be My Husband's Accountability Partner?
Will Our Marriage Ever Be The Same Again?
Do I Need To Get Help Too Even Though My Husband's Addiction Caused This Mess?
Is It Normal To Love My Husbands Some Days and Experience Anger Towards Him On Other Days?
Should We Still Make Love While He Is In Recovery?
How Long Will It Take For Things To Be Normal Again?
Recommended Podcasts
Each of the podcast hosts below have been interviewed on our own podcast, Unleash The Man Within. We recommend them based on the expertise, experience and effectiveness that we have witnessed in their practice.
The Porn Addict's Wife (Podcast & Coaching Services)
This podcast provides tools and thoughts that you can apply to help you move forward in your life and begin to truly live again. Jolene Winn is a certified Life Coach and the wife of a wonderful man who was once addicted to pornography.
The Couples Healing Podcast (Podcast & Coaching Services)
The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery, women working through betrayal, and to help both restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. Sam Tielemans is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who helps you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Recommended Professionals
Getting professional help is a critical part of healing from betrayal trauma. While receiving 1-on-1 guidance from an expert is useful, we recommend programs that couple interaction with the therapist plus a communal experience. The recommendations listed below offer both services individually or together.
Kelly Lamanteer (Coach)
Kelly is a certified coach with a background in nursing. Having gone through extensive sexual abuse and trauma herself, she offers an empathic yet direct approach to the healing journey with an impressive track record.
Heidi Erickson (Registered Therapist)
Heidi specializes in betrayal trauma. Her experience is broad; however her niche is partners of sex & pornography addicts and partners dealing with trauma from affairs. Heidi is passionate about addressing the specific needs of trauma unique to sexual and relational betrayal.
Other Resources
Joelene Win (The Porn Addict's Wife) on Unleash The Man Within
Jolene Winn is the wife of a former porn addict with a coaching practice for Christian women who have a spouse struggling with a pornography addiction. In this episode she details her husband's unusual disclosure about his porn addiction, what it was like to suffer in silence, and how taking extreme ownership of her part in the situation eventually led to a healthy and restored marriage.
Kelly Lamanteer on Unleash The Man Within
In this interview, Kelly deep dives into her story of being raised by two fathers that had sex addictions, experiencing sexual abuse, having a child at 17 yo, finding Jesus, and dramatically changing her life. The years of dysfunction have paved a way for Kelly to craft a very unique framework for dealing with betrayal trauma and porn addiction with women. She explains these frameworks and provides useful insight into the female perspective of addiction.
Looking For More?
We are always looking for ways to improve this page. Please let us know what else we can add to make this more beneficial for women experiencing betrayal trauma.
