Speaker 1** ((00:00:01)) - - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God? That is the question, and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within.
Speaker 2** ((00:00:32)) - - Yo yo yo, what is up, my man?
Speaker 1** ((00:00:34)) - - Its Sathiya Sam here? Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you guys so much for listening. So glad that you have tuned in. We're going to be talking about redefining masculinity in 2024. Uh, very, very important concept. Um, for anyone who is a man or a woman in today's day and age. And we'll get into all of that. Uh, before I do that, I want to thank those of you who continue to support the podcast. We are blown away by the growth in this show. We have doubled in size in the last, I don't know, four months, I think six months.
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Speaker 1** ((00:01:56)) - - And, look, we have some really exciting endeavors that are in the works for 2024. And, um, nothing's launched yet. We're sort of in building mode, building phase. Um, but I can tell you this is going to be really, really good and this show is going to get exponentially better. And, uh, you know, we doubled in size, but we're we're probably going to, you know, five x ten x in size over the next 18 to 24 months. It's going to be awesome. And I'm excited to show you guys some of those changes as they roll out. Let's get into today's content, okay. We're going to be talking about or we are talking about redefining masculinity in 2024. You know, I, um, I'm starting to get bothered by the messages around, uh, I don't know, male identity, manhood and masculinity. And it's it's bugging me. It's really, really bugging me. And it has added an extra fuel to the fire of Unleash the Man Within as a podcast and deep clean my own coaching practice, because I've realized that by helping men quit porn the way we do, which is, you know, Bible based principles and virtues with kind of an integration of research and really trying to change the man rather than just change the behavior.
Speaker 1** ((00:03:19)) - - We have actually allowed a lot of men, and we've empowered a lot of men to step back into more traditional male identities and roles. And so what I mean by that is when clients in particular finish our program, they're more confident to lead. They're not afraid to be themselves. They're not afraid to speak up and to voice themselves and to be assertive again, not to be intentionally abrasive or obnoxious, but just to be present and to assert themselves. You know, um, we're seeing men become way better fathers to their kids because they are seeing themselves as protectors and providers, and they feel like they can do that without, you know, the hypocrisy hanging over their head. And we're seeing men be way better husbands because they are they are starting to just lead the home. And, you know, that's not that's not like some domineering, tyrannical kind of concept. We're not teaching them to be monsters. Um, we're teaching them to to just lead, to bring some leadership to the home that is so needed.
Speaker 1** ((00:04:35)) - - You know, it's fascinating. I've spoken with several couples now where the woman is the breadwinner, and you can tell that the guy is, you know, kind of flailing in a lot of a lot of those the, the couples I'm referring to at least. And he's, you know, he's he's got stuff on the go, but like, just he's not finding that sweet spot in life. And it's interesting, uh, you know, one couple in particular, the, the woman wants to, uh, make a shift career wise, but she feels like she can't, um, because, you know, she's the breadwinner and it puts them in a different position financially. And furthermore, she kind of voiced that, you know, actually being the breadwinner is a lot of pressure. And it's interesting because when, um, when men are paying the bills. Right. And when, when we're getting work and we're, we're collecting that paycheck and we're able to provide for our family, I, I don't know any man who.
Speaker 1** ((00:05:31)) - - Is that stressful or who feels the pressure of that? Now, don't get me wrong when when times are tough, we feel it. So I'm not saying that men never feel it. Um, but this is a this is a couple who is doing really, really well. And even still, she's feeling the pressure. And it was just to me, it was just a it was kind of a reminder, you know, just from a different angle of, wow, you know, this is just another, another great demonstration of why men are to be the, the providers, the if not the sole providers, the primary providers. You know, in my own home, we have, um, we have set things up so that my wife is welcome to work. I'm not against her working. I'm not the guy who says, you know, women should be at the home exclusively and cook, clean, raise the kids. Um, I think that that dynamic works, though, for for couples.
Speaker 1** ((00:06:19)) - - So I'm not against it either. I just don't think it's it's the thing. But I will say it's interesting. You know, we we've been blessed, uh, we're able to pay for our bills and and save a little bit and make some investments. That's kind of the position we're in these days. And my my wife has the option to work. She doesn't need to work, but she can work. And she has more or less chosen not to. And I think that's the way it should be. Um, and so I have a few, a few major points I wanted to make about what, what masculinity looks like in 2024. And this is the first thing is that when when a man leads, okay? When a man leads, he gives the people around him freedom. Okay. When a man leads, the people around him gain freedom. My wife, because I have, I have taken it on my shoulders to provide for my family, to earn a living. To put us in a position where financially, we're okay.
Speaker 1** ((00:07:20)) - - Um, my wife now has the option. She's got freedom, remember? That's that's the definition of freedom, or it's the marker of freedom is having choice. So my wife has options. Um, and because she has options, she she's more in control of her life. It's a really beautiful thing. Now, I realize that some of you guys are in positions where actually you have to be dual income to pay your bills. I get it, okay? This is just it's just an example. It's not the only example. All right. The second thing is men, men in 2024 real men take spiritual authority over the home. Okay. This is very important. Men, if you are not praying with your spouse regularly, if you are not in your own time. Praying over your home, praying over your family. Um, these are things you need to start doing now. This is what men do. We we have to be protectors. And that doesn't just mean that if somebody you know hits on our wife that we're like, hey, buddy, what are you doing? You know that that's like that's like less than 1% of protecting your your home.
Speaker 1** ((00:08:25)) - - Okay. The more protective elements are, uh, providing, putting, putting your family in safe situations, um, and then spiritually protecting them as well, like understanding that that there's so much beyond your control in this thing called life and that you have to trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding and invite him to protect. But but God is looking for that. He's looking for the headship of the home, to actually call on him and to invite him to protect. And I'm telling you, I know that a lot of you guys listening are slacking in this area. You need to stop. You need to stop. It's time to step up in this year. Okay, that's a great segue into the third defining quality of med in 2024, which is that men are assertive. I am. So I'm I'm tired. I'm really, really tired of watching men be so passive. And I know why men have become passive, because the messages out there are telling you that you should be passive, that you should be quiet, that you shouldn't be so loud and proud and domineering and opinionated and whatever else.
Speaker 1** ((00:09:32)) - - But I'm here to tell you, look, if you are a man, you need to assert yourself. You cannot be absent. You cannot be apathetic. You cannot be lethargic. You you cannot afford to make poor decisions or to to choose to be absent in the name of the fear of man. And that's what that's what a lot of guys have resorted to because, you know, we're too afraid. What if we say this and it ruffle some feathers? Well, I don't know. Is it was it the right thing to say? Were you being true to yourself? Like, again, this is not an excuse to be a jerk. This is like we still have to use wisdom and and exercise the fruit of the spirit, right? Like there's gentleness and there's self-control and patience and kindness. And, you know, there's a lot of qualities that that have to kind of, uh, flavor the way we do this. But we don't want to lose sight of, of the fact that that when we are passive and when we when we stay to the wayside and we either let other people lead or we let no one lead, when we let other people speak for us and we don't speak up ourselves, that's a problem that that's a real issue.
Speaker 1** ((00:10:38)) - - And so I'm I'm urging you guys, those that are listening in this in this year, this is time. This is the year of the man. It's the year for men to stand up. And you know, we've we've started using this language in my company, uh, which is that if you change the man, you change the world. And and that is my fundamental belief and my goal this year. I alluded to it at the beginning, and I will continue to be talking about this. Look, we want to change your life. We want you to become the man God's made you to be, because we know that if we can change enough men, we actually might be able to change the world, too. And that's a pretty radical thought. But, um, that's my honest conviction. So that is everything for today. You guys. Thank you for listening. Again. The way this podcast goes is your support. And so if you want to leave a rating or review or you want to share this piece of content with someone that you think might like it or value from, get value from it, please do that.
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