Speaker 1 (00:00:01) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God? That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Hey, hey, what's up, my man? It's Sathiya Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you so much for listening. I'm so glad you're here. So honored you took a little bit of time out of your day to be with us. And I promise we're going to make this worth your while. We're even going to make this a little bit more entertaining than usual today. We're going to play a game, and it's going to be a lot of fun. I think games can be a really cool way to learn. It's not the only point of games, but it can be one of them, and we're going to capitalize on that today.
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Speaker 1 (00:01:46) - But these these resources are designed to help you. Okay? These are not like, oh, we give you little teasers and then if you want the rest, you got to come work with us. We're just not about that. I'm sure you can tell we've been doing a daily podcast or a weekday podcast for two and a half years now. I give I give away my book for free pretty much since I published it. You know, we're really trying to be as generous as we can because we want you guys to succeed. And we know that not everybody has money to do a program like ours. And that's totally okay. Now, without further ado, let's jump into today's content. Oh, sorry, Cynthia slash resources. The link is in the show notes. It's probably easier than trying to spell Cynthia. So there you go, guys. You can go check that out. Okay. What we're going to do is we're going to play a game today. And the reason I want to play this game is, well, I guess I have to give a little bit of context.
Speaker 1 (00:02:38) - So we know biblically that lust is a sin. So we know that we are not to lust after other people. You know, regardless of circumstance. Lust is sort of this inappropriate. Like this is where the line gets drawn biblically. So in the Old covenant, in the Old Testament, the whole concept around adultery was about your behavior. So yes, you're not supposed to lust, of course, but then the what was considered worse than lust was any sort of adulterous behavior. So obviously having an affair, prostitution, you know, all that kind of stuff. So Jesus then comes in the sermon on the Mount in Matthew five and sort of flips these concepts on their head. And he says, you've heard it was said, you shall not commit adultery. That was that was one of the laws. But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So, so the line was sort of like, okay, lust is bad, but adultery that is like heinous.
Speaker 1 (00:03:45) - And Jesus basically said, hey, just in case you didn't know, those are one in the same. So the lines were drawn separately at one point in the new covenant, the covenant that you and I exist in, Jesus said, no, there's one line, and it covers both of these things. To lust is to commit, to commit adultery in your heart and show me a man who has not lusted after someone at some point, and I will show you a fraud. There's just no way we've all we're all convicted by this one alone. Like if we had no other sin in our lives, this would be the one that man falls short on. And, um, what it means is you and I can no longer find some sort of gray middle ground justification of, like, well, you know, I know I'm like, I know I'm totally checking that girl out and fantasizing about her, but at least I'm not sleeping with her. There's no justification for that. The line, the line is drawn right before lust, and anything past that line is is inappropriate.
Speaker 1 (00:04:48) - So that that's what Jesus was kind of setting in Matthew five in this epic sermon on the Mount. Now, the problem is, Christian men in particular, become so paranoid and so concerned about crossing this line that God gives an attraction which is on the other side of the line. The healthy side of the line sometimes gets lumped in, and a lot of men live with guilt and condemnation and sabotage and self criticism and deprecation and all that kind of stuff, because they think that their God. Given attraction is lust. This is one of the greatest schemes of the enemy. Remember that the enemy does rarely, rarely does the enemy try to to present his lies as opposites. We sometimes kind of contrast the truth and lies like they're opposites and really what the enemy actually does. Remember, the enemy is uncreative. He cannot create anything. He's not God. Um, so what he does is he takes what first existed, which is the truth, and he distorts it. And so some of you have been living in bondage because you have believed a distorted truth of the enemy, a lie of the enemy, that your God given attraction is lust.
Speaker 1 (00:06:13) - And as a result, your sex life is suffering. Your sense of of manhood is suffering, and you are living with unnecessary guilt and condemnation. And I want to set you free of that today, and I want to do it in a game of Fide way. So this is actually an Instagram post that I was working on, and I thought, you know what? This was fun. I really enjoyed it, and I thought this would be a cool thing to do with the audience or the podcast audience as well. So you guys can give me some feedback whether you like this or not. But what I'm going to do is I'm going to present a scenario to you and you're going to you're going to tell me, is this lust or attraction? Now, if you've been a listener for a while here, you're probably going to have a leg up, because we've obviously talked about this stuff before. And if you're new to this podcast, then I it'll be interesting to see how you do. We got three cards that we're going to go through today.
Speaker 1 (00:07:02) - And then a little bit of a of a comment to sort of close this out. Okay. So let me give you this scenario and you tell me, is this lust or attraction? A man walks down the street and notices someone attractive. He sees her and then redirects his focus on something else lust or attraction. Okay. He noticed someone attractive. All right, I'm going to give you card two. All right. We'll we'll go through the answers at the end. Card two A man walks down the street and notices someone attractive. He sees her and can't resist a double take. So he looks again. Lust or attraction? Don't, don't. Duh. All right, let me read that one again. A man walks down the street and notices someone attractive. Okay, that's the same as card one. This is where the part gets different. He sees her and can't resist a double take, so he looks again. Lust or attraction? Okay. Card three A man scrolls through his Instagram feed and sees a nude image that snuck past the algorithm.
Speaker 1 (00:07:55) - Lust or attraction? A man scrolls through his Instagram feed, sees a nude image that snuck past the algorithm. Lust or attraction? Okay, so those are the three scenarios. I'm going to read each card. I'm going to give you the answers now okay. A man walks down the street and notices someone attractive. He sees her and then redirects his focus on something else. Is that lust or attraction? That is attraction. You are allowed to see other people that are attractive. That is totally okay. And some of you didn't know that. Some of you, someone listening needed to hear that seeing somebody attractive is a godly experience. Period. Okay. Card two. A man walks down the street and notices someone attractive. He sees her and can'trillionesist a double take, so he looks again. Is that luster attraction pretty obvious? Now that is lust. So what I want you to start to see here is that it is not. It is not the presence of attraction that becomes problematic. It is the response.
Speaker 1 (00:08:59) - The response is make or break. And so that's where we want to be hyper focused and vigilant in our recovery efforts. Card number three. This is a very common occurrence. A man scrolled through his Instagram feed and sees a nude image. Maybe it's not even a nude image, but scantily clad kind of clothing that sneaks past the algorithm. Is this lust or attraction? This is attraction. And now why is this attraction? Because they looked at something that was inappropriate. Well, remember that Jesus said in Matthew five. He said, whoever looks at a woman. Lustfully. The the other translations would say, whoever looks at a woman with lustful intent or to lust for her has already committed adultery. So it doesn't say whoever looks at a woman has committed adultery with her in his heart. It says whoever looks at a woman lustfully. So if if you stumble upon something and you weren't really looking for it, then it's not lustful. The tricky thing here is that we have to guard the motives of the heart, because I know for me, sometimes I would do, I would, I would do, let's say, a Google search for something totally unrelated.
Speaker 1 (00:10:17) - But I kind of knew what I was doing. I kind of knew I was going to go to the Google Images tab. I was going to kind of keep scrolling through. And there was a point in time where if you went to like the last page of a Google image search, there would always be some pornographic content. So I kind of knew what I was doing. So the intent is there. So again, the intent can be very subtle. It can be very coy. So be careful. You need to guard your heart. You need to be vigilant about those things. So thanks for playing that game with me guys. I hope that was okay and we'll keep doing this. Obviously I started off pretty basic today, but we'll we'll build some more cases and maybe in another month or two we'll do another round of this. Let me know if you enjoyed this. Make sure you get your hands on some more free resources to slash resources links in the show notes in the meantime. Hey, love you guys.
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