Speaker 1 (00:00:01) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God? That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Yo yo yo, what is up, my guy? It's Sathiya Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you so much for listening. I'm so glad you're here. I'm honored. Honored that you take some time out of your day. And I'm really excited to dive into today's content. Now, today, we are talking a little bit about why the best solutions are sometimes the least intuitive, the least logical. And I'm going to explain exactly what I mean by all of that. But before I get there, I want to thank those of you who have been spreading the word about our podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:01:04) - Now. I actually like sharing the numbers with you guys. I think it's fun. And to put you in some context, the first year that our podcast ran. So from the month of I guess it would have been January to, um, let me get this right. Sorry, not January. What am I talking about? It was from June, from June 2021. That just sounds crazy to say. Until December we got something like 8 or 12,000 downloads. It was somewhere in that range. We started to grow a little bit more, you know, word start to spread, and so we start to get about a thousand a month, 2000 a month, 3000. And for a majority of 2023, we've been hovering around the 20 to 25,000 mark until September. Sorry. Until August, in August. You guys just did such a great job. I mean, we worked really hard. You might recall we did a push in July to bump up the reviews. We wanted 100, excuse me, 100 written reviews on iTunes.
Speaker 1 (00:02:09) - And to be honest, we're gunning for 200 now. But we wanted 100 because we knew that would solidify us a little bit in the algorithm, and it gives just a little bit more credibility overall. And we did that. And between that and you guys sharing the word, you've been doing an amazing job. We are now at like 45 to 50,000 downloads a month. So the show continues to grow like wildfire. Yeah. And we don't run ads. We don't run sponsorships. We don't have promotions. We we literally just keep it clean content. And we ask you guys to do everything you can in your power to share it. And so I'm coming with an ask again today, which is that you would do exactly that, you know, share it on your platforms. Or if you get some value out of what we have, please share it with friends, loved ones. If you're in a leadership position and you have people under your authority that you know need this kind of content, direct them to it.
Speaker 1 (00:03:01) - All of those things. Number one, they obviously help us grow. But number two, they help us change more lives. And that's what we're really about. We want this to be life changing content that could really change the entire world and the entire landscape of sexual sin, healthy masculinity and everything that comes along with it. So thanks to those of you who have spread the word, please continue to do so. And if you have not left a rating or a review or shared some content, then I would ask you to do that to help us keep this podcast without any ads or sponsors or anything like that. Okay, let's get into solution sizing. Let's talk a little bit about how to make solutions. So this is really interesting because I feel like the. The the I don't know, I guess the fallacy of man's ability to problem solve is on full display when it comes to addiction, and especially porn addiction. And what I mean by that is, you know, porn addicted Sathya when he was 21, 22 years old, installed internet filters and internet filters make sense logically, because you're watching content that you don't want to watch on a device, and so you install the software on the device, the device blocks it, and logically, that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (00:04:20) - Unfortunately, it doesn't work. Illegitimately truly does not work. Why? Because even though it's a logical solution, it's missing some of the other core elements that are driving that destructive behavior in the first place. So sometimes the most logical solutions don't always work. I mentioned to you guys, you know, I recently became a father to little baby Judah Daniel. My absolute pride and joy. I love that kid so much. And when I was getting ready to become a father in my time with the Lord, I asked him. I said, God, what can I do to prepare? Like I know there's no such thing as being prepared. I know that it's a big learning curve. I know all that stuff. I wasn't I wasn't trying to have everything perfect. I didn't want to try to have everything figured out before I did it, but I was just just humbly coming for God and saying, you know, God, if you see anything wrong in me, if you see any, any unrepentant sin, if you see, like, any character flaws, you know, like it was it was that kind of like, I'm open, I'm open right here.
Speaker 1 (00:05:34) - God, what do you need from me? Or what can what can be addressed within me so that I can be as ready as possible for fatherhood? And he told me two things. He said, become a better son. And become a better husband. So that's interesting, isn't it? Because I thought it would be like, you know, some babies are going to test your patience. And so you need to really work on your patience. Like I was kind of expecting that answer, but he he was basically pointing me in a different direction. And so I said, well, why would I become a better son? And he said, you need to become a better son because the better you are as a son, the better you will be as a father, right? It is by investing in your relationship with your dad, both earthly and heavenly, you, you will get a better image of what good fathering looks like, what it means to have a good, healthy father son relationship, and that that will pour down into your lineage.
Speaker 1 (00:06:39) - Number two, become a better husband because by investing in the marriage and supporting the heck out of your wife, who's also the mother of your child, that lays a foundation for the family. And as long as the marriage is strong, the family is strong. But not the other way around. And I, I was really taken aback. And I've just been reminded again and again in my walk with the Lord in just the different years of life, and certainly and now about five full years of helping men quit pornography. I'm reminded that the most logical solutions are rarely the best ones. See, the logical solution to become a better father would be to read fathering books, to talk to other fathers, to listen to a father podcast, or, you know, like some of the things I mentioned earlier, like, you know, I can be impatient sometimes, so maybe learning to be a little bit more patient. I can be merciless sometimes. So learning to be more merciful, very reasonable solutions, they're totally logical.
Speaker 1 (00:07:39) - They make sense. And yet the most effective solutions up until this point have not necessarily been the most obvious. They haven't been the most logical. In recovery, you will always be tempted to do the most logical, the most obvious solution. Can I just give you a little word of advice? Don't. Don't take the bait, because usually the solutions that everyone is doing, the most obvious solutions usually are the least effective. And we see that happen with money. We see that happen with education. You know, the somebody very wise once said, if you want to stand out, if you want to be above average, observe what the averages are doing and do the opposite. So if everybody is installing an internet filter or worse, if everybody's telling you, you know, pawns not so bad and you want to stand out, well, then you have to start doing things that those people are not doing. Because if you do what they do, then your average. And that's why getting to the root of the solution.
Speaker 1 (00:08:51) - For those of you that are still stuck in a porn addiction and you're trying to figure out why, what am I doing wrong? What's wrong with me? Number one, nothing's wrong with you. Number two, you haven't done anything wrong. It's just that you maybe have not found what is most effective. And what I'd like to suggest to you is what is most effective is anything that addresses the roots of the problem. If you can get to the root of the problem, you can expect to experience clarity on what's going on, a more effective solution, and lasting freedom as a result. So sometimes the best solutions are the least logical. I would say oftentimes, and I would say that if you have been doing the logical thing, try not try to do something different, trying to do something that's not so logical that that's counterintuitive. Don't be, you know, erratic and just do something random. Right? We still we still use common sense. We still use wisdom and discernment and all that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (00:09:48) - But maybe do something that's counterintuitive. I'll use one last example and then I'll wrap up. I'm I'm still training very regularly. I've taken a break with the newborn, but getting back into the swing of things now, and the one thing that the I have personal trainers, quote unquote, from a distance, a podcast called Mind Pump. I am actually working on trying to get one of those guys on the show. There seems to be some interest, so we'll see what happens there. But one of the things that they say is the exercise that you hate the most are the ones that you need the most, because the reason you hate them is that they are exercising parts of you that are underdeveloped. They're exposing areas where you are weak. And so yes, you're going to hate them. Yes, they're uncomfortable, but they are likely what you actually need the most for your next stage of training and development. And I would say the same is true for you if you feel that resistance to seeing a counselor, if you feel that resistance to getting a coach or or doing a program because it just sounds like so much work and it sounds like, oh, you know, I've, I've looked at it before, but it just, you know, you can feel that resistance.
Speaker 1 (00:11:00) - The again, it may not be that logical. It might be easier and more obvious to just slap on an internet filter and bounce the eyes and just pray and trust in the Lord. But I'm telling you, your greatest breakthrough is on the things that are the most counterintuitive to you in this stage right now. So I bless you guys with that. Thank you so much for listening today. Really appreciate you guys. Stay clean up there. We'll talk soon. Bye bye. Hey everybody, it's Sathiya again. Thanks for listening to Unleash the Man Within. I wanted to take a quick moment to let you know about a free e-book that I wrote for you, called The Ultimate Guide to Porn Recovery. It provides a basic framework for the recovery process and a few of my top tips completely free of charge. You can get it now at WWW Ultimate Recovery guide.com. That's w WWW Ultimate Recovery guide. Com. Now if you've been impacted by the podcast and you want to show some support in less than 60s, there are three ways you can do that.
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