Speaker 1 (00:00:01) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God? That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Yo yo yo. What's up, my man? It's Sathiya Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you so much for listening. I am so honored that you're here today. Really excited to dive in. Today's content a very, very important subject how to let go of your past. We're going to talk all about it. And we're going to make sure that by the end of this, you can take a step forward to letting go of your past, leaving it behind, and moving ahead to your future. Before we do that, hey, I just want to make sure that you guys know we appreciate you so much and we literally could not grow this podcast without you.
Speaker 1 (00:01:05) - I shared in an earlier episode this month that we have gone from getting, you know, 50 to 500 downloads maybe in a week, two 50,000 downloads a month. We have grown like crazy in two and a half years, and we intend to not stop anytime soon. I'm dreaming about the days that we are getting, you know, 200, 300,000 downloads per month and impacting millions around the world with this message helping men quit porn everywhere. And you can actually be a part of that right now. You don't have to have it all figured out and be perfect. You can share this content with people. You can leave a rating or review on your platform. Those things go miles and miles to changing other people's lives and signaling to people like you, hey, this content is valuable and this could help you. And I know that if you're a listener of this show, you probably have a heart for helping other people like me. And so this is a really easy way for you to do that until you get your full freedom yourself.
Speaker 1 (00:02:06) - And then, hey, you should go start your own podcast or go share your stories in other ways. There's plenty, plenty of ways for you to do that. In the meantime, this is a great way for you to be a help. So let's jump in. Let's talk about how to let go of your past. Here's the honest truth. We all have a past. Nobody is perfect. We've all made mistakes, and even those who maybe have made few mistakes still have things that they regret, things that they would do differently, and something that a client of ours had had asked recently is, how do I let go of my past and really embrace my future? You know, like, I get it that I'm supposed to be more focused on my future and I'm supposed to be driven towards that, but I just feel so hindered by my past. Now, I have a very simple answer for that. It's going to sound oversimplified, but this is the honest truth. If your past stops you.
Speaker 1 (00:03:03) - From focusing on your glorious future, then your past has become a part of your identity. So let me say that again. If your past stops you from getting excited about your glorious future. Your past has become a part of your identity. That's a hard statement to swallow. Because for me, I mean, I hate that idea. You know, I hate that that I, I. I would identify so much with my past, or I would form an identity around, you know, stuff that I hate and stuff that was destructive that I. I can't move on. But what we've observed is that that that is the case, you know, when clients are with us and they're saying, no, I don't believe I am valuable. I don't believe I have a future ahead. I don't believe there's anything there for me. When clients are telling us that, we realize that it's because it's not because they don't believe in themselves, and they just need a more compelling vision in whatever. They've actually formed an identity around their past.
Speaker 1 (00:04:20) - And unless they're willing to shed that skin, they will continue to drag their feet through the present, never reaching their glorious future. So if if you're listening to this, I want you to hear a couple of things. Number one, you were born with a purpose and nobody can change that. That's biblical God. God does not change people's callings. God does not make mistakes. He designed you for a reason. And those reasons stand until your time on earth finishes number two. Romans 1129 is crystal clear. That the giftings and the callings of God are irrevocable. So whatever it is that God has graced you with, he's graced you with it for a reason and he's not going to take it away any time soon. So you have a glorious future. That's why we need to have this conversation. The third thing you need to know is that you have made mistakes just like everyone else. And so the difference between somebody who's made mistakes but is living in their glorious future, and somebody who has not been able to step into their glorious future, is the way they responded to their mistakes.
Speaker 1 (00:05:33) - Yeah, well, you don't know what I've been through. Don't need to. No, no, no. But but but what I went through was very different than what typical people got. I'm sure it was. Doesn't matter. As long as your identity is formed around your past, you will not step into a glorious future. Now here's how you know if your identity is is wrapped up in your past, or if your past is wrapped up in your identity. However you want to phrase that. If you bring up your past without people prompting you. Great indicator. If you keep referencing your past in. Questions and conversations that aren't really asking for it.
Speaker 2 (00:06:19) - If you have.
Speaker 1 (00:06:21) - Drawn an identity statement from the past. Hi, I'm Cynthia, I'm a porn addict. I'm Bill. I'm an alcoholic. Right? Again hard like the no disrespect to AA. AA has changed millions and millions of lives and they will continue to do so for a good reason. But but I know a lot of people that have gone through AA.
Speaker 1 (00:06:48) - I actually that's, that's that's not quite true. I know a few people that have gone through AA, I've seen and witnessed a lot of people go through. And I would say the the success stories are people that are no longer consuming alcohol. They're not necessarily walking in a glorious future. There's a difference. So just to just to, you know, kind of shed some light and put it put this in perspective and give a little bit of context. I'm not talking about here's how you let go of your past so that you can be free of porn. I'm talking about here's how you can let go of your past so that you can step into a glorious future that does not involve pornography. But the goal is not to quit porn. The goal is for you to become everything God made you to be. Hopefully that makes sense and you can see the difference. So let's let's go a little bit deeper into this okay. So so you acknowledged like yeah I'm having a hard time letting go of my, my past.
Speaker 1 (00:07:43) - I have formed a bit of an identity around it or you know, I can't forgive myself again if you can't forgive yourself for it. Very good indicator that your identity is formed around I just can't, I can't I couldn't forgive myself for it. Because if I forgive myself for it, then I would be x, y, z. See how it becomes a B statement? No, no, I mean, I would be a monster if I doubted it. Yeah, that's because we're dealing with an identity issue. The last thing I want you to hear is that there's a lot of people in this world who have probably dealt with worse than you in their past, and they've successfully moved on. That's not to shame you and to say, hey, they did it. What's the matter with you? That's to say. If they did it. I don't see anything that could stop you. So how do you let go of your past? Practically? You have to shed the skin first. You have to separate those two things.
Speaker 1 (00:08:36) - It's going to feel very uncomfortable. I'll tell you. I'll tell you something, guys. I had to do this with business. Like becoming a businessman, identifying as an entrepreneur, and it terrified the hell out of me. I had to shed that skin of being an employee, being in a 9 to 5, you know, all the things that come with it. Being a pastor, you know, being not caring about money and not having to worry about financial statements and whatever, I had to shed all of that. That was that was step one. Step two is you need to do things that align with the new identity. If you are a man who is born free, you probably wouldn't go to strip clubs. So if that was part of your past, it no longer is part of your life so that you can step into your glorious future. If in your porn addiction, you had a hard time reading the Bible and spending time with God, but you want to be a man of integrity who leads his family well, and somebody that can be trusted in church and maybe even in a position of leadership, well, you're going to have to crack open your Bible every day.
Speaker 1 (00:09:42) - That's that's kind of part of the gig here. So we we want to be really smart, and we want to be really intentional with how we're spending our time and how we're using our resources and how we're viewing ourselves and ultimately, how we're behaving. It all matters. They all coalesce and intermingle. Last thing. How do you let go of your past? Create a future so glorious that your past seems insignificant. Create a future so glorious your past seems insignificant. What does that mean? Or what does that look like? It's up to you. You know I'm in my glorious future right now. I get to teach. That's my favorite thing in the world, I love teaching. I love creating content. I have an amazing team who's looking out for me, who's who's helping us reach more people. Way more than I could have on my own. Like, this is. This is good times over here, man. We're having a good life. And yes, I let go of my past.
Speaker 1 (00:10:47) - I shed the skin. But I also built a future that I'm proud of. I built a life. I built some goals, some some dreams and ambitions that have me in some incredible places. And you can be in those places too. So how do you let go of your past? Well. You start, said the skin. Build a new identity. Started doing the things that that new identity would do. And don't do it alone. Let somebody be with you along the ride. Because I'm telling you, there's difficult moments along the way and it's very easy to regress and to retract. But if you can stay the course, you will see mountains move and you will see things change. So that's everything for today, guys. The last thing I want to mention is if you're looking for serious help, make sure you book a time in my calendar. My link is in the show notes. I'd love to speak with you and see if Deep Clean is a good fit. In the meantime, God bless you guys.
Speaker 1 (00:11:41) - Have an amazing day. We'll talk soon. Bye bye. Hey, everybody, it's Sathiya again. Thanks for listening to Unleash the Man Within. I wanted to take a quick moment to let you know about a free e-book that I wrote for you, called The Ultimate Guide to Porn Recovery. It provides a basic framework for the recovery process and a few of my top tips completely free of charge. You can get it now at WWW Recovery guide.com. That's w WW Ultimate Recovery guide. Com. Now if you've been impacted by the podcast and you want to show some support in less than 60s, there are three ways you can do that. First, you can leave a rating or review on your podcast platform. This lets people like you know that the content here is valuable. Secondly, you can share this episode with someone in your life that might benefit from the content. If you're passionate about helping other people experience freedom and success in their lives, this is one of the easiest ways to do that. And lastly, you can subscribe.
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