Speaker 1 (00:00:01) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God? That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Hey, hey, what's up, my man? It's Sathiya Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you so much for listening. I'm so glad you're here. I'm super excited to jump into today's content. We're going to talk about why quitting porn is overrated. You read that correctly, and I'm going to explain my bold and brash statement here in just a couple of moments now before I jump in. Huge thanks to all of you who are supporting this podcast. You'll notice we do not run ads. We don't have sponsors. This is basically a fully clean listener experience. And not that there's anything wrong with those things.
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Speaker 1 (00:01:57) - And so you can do your part, help us out, and you can also change somebody else's life by continuing to share the content. Leave a rating, leave a review on your platform. A huge thanks to many of you who have done that already. And if you'd like to continue, that would mean the world to us. Okay, let's jump in. Let's talk about why quitting porn is overrated. Sounds strange, doesn't it? Here is a podcast dedicated to quitting porn, hosted by a guy who's dedicated his life's work to helping other people quit porn because he himself has quit porn for seven and a half years. So how on earth could quit important possibly be overrated? Well, this is meant to highlight a rookie mistake that we see a lot of people make, and I. I like using analogies and parallels, and I would kind of liken it to an athlete. Imagine you have an athlete and I'm a huge fan of the Toronto Maple Leafs. You guys know that if you've been listening for a while, and the Toronto Maple Leafs have one of the NHL's best shooters, best scorers named Auston Matthews, so he knows on in his role.
Speaker 1 (00:03:03) - His job is to score goals. That's it. The goal is to score goals, but for him to score goals, he has to be in good condition. He has to be healthy. He has to make sure he's getting to the right places at the right time. When they're running plays, he needs to come back defensively. When the other team has the puck. There's a lot of other things he has to do that allow him to do the one thing he's actually trying to do, and quitting porn is overrated because if quitting point is your main goal and you solely focus on just trying to quit pornography, what happens is you actually get in your head the same way that a goal scorer in the NHL, if all he thinks about is scoring goals and he doesn't think about all the other parts of his game that matter, that could lead to him scoring goals. And he just stands in front of the net and waits for the puck to come to him. Well, he's not going to get played, he's not going to get opportunities and he's probably not going to score goals.
Speaker 1 (00:03:56) - He's going to get way in his head. And we see this happen with athletes. You know, someone like like an Auston Matthews who is expected to score goals and then he has a couple of games where he doesn't and he gets into a bit of a slump, and then he gets in his head and he tries to do things differently and tries to mix things up and tries to, you know, tries to kind of overcompensate for the deficiency. And what we see is that this does more harm than good. This causes more problems, really, what he needs to do and what anybody trying to break out of a funk in anything needs to do, is to focus on the smaller things that lead to the greater outcome. So in addiction recovery and porn addiction recovery, your goal is to quit porn. That is a noble goal. That is correct. So I'm not saying let's let's scrap the goal. What I would like to suggest to you is that that goal in of itself is not enough. And many, many a man have tried to quit porn with a goal along those lines and have been unsuccessful because they fail to focus on the things that allow them to quit porn.
Speaker 1 (00:05:00) - And if they would have just made a slight tweak, they would have realized that if you if you focus on the right things, then quitting porn becomes the byproduct of your efforts. And that is what recovery really looks like. So, you know, you're listening to this and you've probably tried a couple of things, and you got so focused on quitting that the tool was just a means to an end. But if you find the right solutions, the solutions are not the means to the end. A solutions are the end and the byproduct is that you recover, your behavior changes, your thinking patterns change. You regain control of your inner life. You become a healthier, more godly and holy man. These are the byproducts of channeling your efforts and energy on the things that really matters. So this begs the question, what are the things that truly matter? And I would, I would argue probably for about three things in particular that you should be focused on. These are sort of the indirect things that if you can focus on these, naturally, you will start to make progress in your recovery.
Speaker 1 (00:06:11) - It will be an inevitable byproduct of you focusing on these three things. You ready for them? Okay. The first thing, and this is these are going to be more broad subjects. I just have to be honest with you. And I'll try to I'll try to break them down and get a bit more concise if I can. But the first one is connection. So we know the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it's connection. And so connection is vital, very important if you're doing this alone, if you're doing this superficially, you are shooting yourself in the foot and you are really failing to focus on the things that will bring recovery as a byproduct or freedom as a byproduct. So connection is a huge one. Don't do this alone, and you don't have to. You don't have to come work with us. You don't have to do any of the things that we say or work with any of our people, but find somebody in your life. Just start with one person. Let me ask you, who's the safest person in your life that you could share anything with? Go start with them and what you'll probably find.
Speaker 1 (00:07:14) - For some people that's enough, but not for for people who are actually addicted. It's not. That's just the honest truth. That's sort of the stepping stone. That was the case for me. I reached out to one friend that was helpful, but I started to kind of relapse, reach out to another friend, and gradually kind of, you know, tried different things. But it wasn't until I really plugged into a community that's when things really changed. And that's that's where I would make a push for what we're doing here or something similar. That's where these solutions can be beneficial, because it's hard to find groups of people who struggle with these issues. And so if you can find someone who's already doing it, the community is already there. It's just a lot easier to assimilate and plug in. So number one is connection. Okay. This is one of those indirect solutions that brings about the solution. Second thing is learning to process your inner life without. Restraint. Learning to process your inner life without restraints.
Speaker 1 (00:08:14) - What do I mean by that? Whether it's seen a therapist talking to that really safe friend of yours. Journaling. It could even be like audio logging. Chronicling. It doesn't really matter how you do it, but for you to be successful in recovery, you must learn to process and digest your inner life effectively. If you cannot process feelings, emotions, belief patterns, paradigms, perceptions, thoughts, if you're not able to to properly process these things and effectively process them not just to the point where it's like, okay, thank God, like the stress of it has gone away or it's dissipated, but it actually lands in a place that's healthy. And you can kind of, well, to use a very male term, compartmentalize it. If you if you can't do that, you will not make a lasting recovery. You might be able to white knuckle your way to to some sobriety, but you're not going to experience true freedom. And that's obviously what we want for you guys. That's kind of what we're all about.
Speaker 1 (00:09:19) - So I want to encourage you guys, make sure that that is a part of your process, okay, part of what you're doing. And the third thing is you want to make sure that the spiritual is part of your recovery. The spiritual is part of your recovery. What do I mean by that? I mean that when you focus on building a deeper relationship with God, when you focus on getting into the word, strengthening your prayer life, really letting God know you for who you are, the the flaws and the failures and everything in between. You position yourself for freedom. You position yourself to be successful in this area, and the natural byproduct is that you walk in greater levels of freedom. And listen. These three things I talked about connection, learning to process things without restraint, and building a deeper spiritual life. These were some of the core tenets of my own recovery. I share them with you, hoping that they will help you do the same thing. It's been seven and a half years for me.
Speaker 1 (00:10:20) - We've helped hundreds of guys get freedom with these same things, and there's no reason that can't be true for you as well. So thank you guys so much for listening. If you find value from what we're doing here, please a rating or review or sharing this content with some other people means the world to us. In the meantime, God bless you guys. Stay clean. We'll talk soon. Bye bye. Hey, everybody, it's Sathiya again. Thanks for listening to Unleash the Man Within. I wanted to take a quick moment to let you know about a free e-book that I wrote for you, called The Ultimate Guide to Porn Recovery. It provides a basic framework for the recovery process and a few of my top tips completely free of charge. You can get it now at WWW Ultimate Recovery guide.com. That's w WW alternate Recovery guide. Com. Now if you've been impacted by the podcast and you want to show some support in less than 60s, there are three ways you can do that. First, you can leave a rating or review on your podcast platform.
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