Speaker 1 (00:00:01) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God. That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. What's up everybody? It's Sathiya. Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you guys so much for listening. I am so glad you're here. I'm so honored you're here. And I have some really exciting news to share with you in just a short minute before I jump into that, if you do not have my copy of sorry, a copy of my book The Last Relapse, I want to just remind you that all listeners get a copy of this completely free of charge. Just go to the last relapse book and it's all yours. And if you're wondering what this is and why I'm giving it away for free, well, number one, this is my recovery blueprint.
Speaker 1 (00:01:06) - This is literally the process that I went through, and this is the process that I have now taken hundreds of guys through thousands, really, if you want to include some of the other channels that we use in addition to our, our, our, our practice, our, our client base, all of this is covered in the last relapse. And so you can learn whether you've done this a thousand times and they all failed or this is your first time trying, this book is going to show you exactly what to do, what not to do, and how to be the most effective in your recovery efforts until you reach a place of lasting freedom. Me personally, I'm working on seven and a half years, and the reason that we're doing this, the reason we give away the book for free, is number one, I do believe that some of you are going to see a tremendous value in that book and hopefully decide to work with us, that that is part of the goal, and I would just like to be upfront about that rather than trying to be sinister or discreet about that.
Speaker 1 (00:01:59) - But the second thing is, God told me to give it away for free. I had spent over ten grand getting this book done. I was ready to publish it and really try to earn my money back. And God told me, Sathiya calling an audible here, it's it's time for you to actually release this to the world in the most accessible way possible. No barriers to entry. And so he told me to give away the book for free. And that's what we've been doing for just under two years now. We have changed a lot of lives because of it, and I would love for yours to be changed as well. The last relapse book is where you can get your copy. Now let's jump into today's content. Guys. Today is a different episode. This is not a normal informational piece. This is not a kick in the butt. Get on with your life. Quit porn piece. This is a life update from Sathiya because as you guys know, my wife has been pregnant and we have been expecting our first child for, oh, I don't know, roughly call it nine months.
Speaker 1 (00:02:55) - And on October 12th at 526 in the morning, Judah Daniel Sam came into the world. He was born a healthy £9, seven ounces, 22in long and a watermelon sized head. I mean, everything about this kid was flippin huge and it was just, oh my gosh, I still like saying it. It really doesn't even feel real. I think at the time of this recording, he's he's about 12, 13 days old, something like that. And it's just it's just kind of wild the journey that we've been on here. So baby is very healthy. For those of you that are dads, I'll give you the important information he's feeding well, he's sleeping well and when he's awake, he's very alert. He's a very content baby. And he's already he's already doing things that babies as young as him should not be doing. So he's probably going to be trouble. But for now, he's super cute. And so those of you who aren't dads, man, I'm just I'm excited for for you one day because that is a life changing experience.
Speaker 1 (00:04:00) - And that's what I wanted to talk about today. The we we had this this crazy moment, lots of crazy moments. And I'm not going to get into the whole actual delivery story, although that is a story in of itself. But we had this really wild moment as we were leaving the hospital with the baby. And, you know, I've heard all the stories about like, you know, with the first time you leave and the parents are like, what? You're trusting us with this kid. Like we don't know what we're doing and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I didn't really have that. You know, we've been really excited to become parents and we both have a decent degree of confidence going into this. Not not in like we have it all figured out, but just like we will figure it out, you know, more of that kind of confidence hopefully that that makes sense. But we we were I I'm wheeling Shalamar out of out of the hospital. You know she can't really walk obviously she's still recovering.
Speaker 1 (00:04:50) - And so I have one hand on the wheelchair. I'm pushing her and then my other hand. I'm carrying Judah in the car seat. And so we we walk down the hall and we get into the elevators. It's just the three of us. And, you know, that sinking moment of like, wow, the three of us, you know what I mean? Like, oh my gosh, this is it's no longer just me and Shalom. It will never be me in Shalamar. Obviously, there will be a time where, you know, maybe her and I are exclusively spending most of our time together again, but a not in the foreseeable future, and b it still doesn't change the fact that we will always be a family of minimum three. You know, we're hoping to have a few more. So we the elevator lands, the doors open. Been and we start walking and the halls were clear. And it's literally just a straight, clear, very open hall. And you can see the exit doors at the very end of it.
Speaker 1 (00:05:42) - And so we start walking towards the doors and as we're walking, the hall is relatively clear, and all of a sudden there's this kind of commotion a little bit closer to the doors, and you see a gurney kind of come out of nowhere. And a couple, I don't know, doctors or nurses on the case rushing him. And so, so as we go by and you could see the guy and he looked, it looked really bleak. And you're kind of seeing life. You know, I have I literally am holding life in my right hand. Brand new baby life. The kid was like two days old and you're seeing death kind of go back, go beside you, go by you on the other side. And and I just kind of stood there for a moment like, wow, you know, like life and death all at once. And Judah's birth reminded me of not reminded. It didn't remind me of death. I don't. I don't want to make this really joyful thing morbid, but it reminded me of the people I have lost to death.
Speaker 1 (00:06:40) - That really means something to me. Like my grandma. I've talked about Chucky, my best, my best friend in grade ten who died by suicide, and some of the other friends I've lost to suicide as well. And I remember having this thought leading up to the delivery, but I almost felt like maybe it was too naive and so I didn't really voice it. But now, now that we're on the other side and we've had just a very small taste of newborn life, it feels more real. It was kind of like this hypothesis that I'm realizing now was correct. And I remember feeling this way when, especially when Chucky died, it certainly felt this way with other people. I've lost as well. But Chucky is where I felt it the most. I remember probably a week after he passed away, thinking how weird it was. You know, one of our favorite bands had just released a new song, and I remember thinking, oh, that's so weird that he is not he doesn't get to hear our favorite bands new song, you know? And it was that weird thing of like, you want life to just pause for a moment, because in that particular instance, it was so overwhelmingly bad.
Speaker 1 (00:07:42) - I just felt like I needed a breather and I couldn't because life went on and life was business as usual. I still put my pants on the same way. I still went to the same school. I still had all the other same friends and all the same goals and dreams in life. And it was that weird dichotomy of life has changed forever. And yet life is exactly the same. And I feel that way about the birth of my son. He he has changed everything. My life will never be the same now that I'm a dad and I have a little boy and it doesn't matter. Like whatever happens of his life, whatever becomes of it, this is a life changing moment. And yet I'm. I'm in my studio. I'm in my office today. I'm sitting at the same desk that I've sat in for the last two years. I put my pants on the same way. My my hair is still like, you know, kind of looks neat, but it's kind of a mess at the same time, I put my contacts in my eyes one contact at a time today.
Speaker 1 (00:08:38) - It's that weird. Dynamic where everything has changed and yet nothing has changed at the same time. And I'm sure you guys can relate. And I the reason I share this is I, I find that the, the the whole statement, it changes everything. I find that to be number one grossly overstated. But number two, really unhelpful. And the reason I find it unhelpful is because as much as it does change everything. It. It doesn't. In fact, it changes few things. Even major things. Like. Like the like. Yes, I sleep less now. Yes, I think about myself a lot less. I almost don't even have an option to think about myself as much as I want to like. Some major things have changed, but a majority of things have actually stayed the same, and I find great comfort in that. Knowing that my life actually has a degree of stability, a degree of of consistency and repeatability and reliability, you know what I mean? And so I'm really I'm really finding solace in that.
Speaker 1 (00:09:42) - And I wanted to share that with you guys today. Being a dad is the most incredible thing. My life is totally changed. And there's great comfort knowing that amidst great chaos and change, that there are many things in my life that are still the same. And maybe some of you need to hear that as well. Maybe you're going through a divorce. Maybe you just had another relapse after years of trying to recover and trying and trying. Maybe you're moving cities, maybe you've changed jobs. Maybe you just have to break up with someone and or somebody broke up with you. Maybe you've lost somebody, a loved one to death recently or maybe had a falling out. You're going through life changing things. I just want you to know that yes, these moments change everything, but they change nothing at the same time. And who you are has not changed. Who God has made you to be has not changed. And the path that he has you on has. You've only just taken a step closer by going through what you're going through.
Speaker 1 (00:10:40) - And so find, find refuge in that, find calmness in that breathe. Because as much as things around you are changing, you know, they're changing all the time. There is much in your life that is still steady and stable. And if you focus on those things, or at least continue to stand on those things, you will feel a lot more secure as you manage the different changes and challenges that come with life. So that's what I'm up to this, this season, and I want to invite you into it as well. If you find it helpful. A bit of a different episode today, guys. Thank you for listening and just humoring me a little bit while I just share with absolute pride and joy about Judah Daniel. We will get back onto our regularly scheduled programming, although probably a lot more baby references. Just be warned in the days ahead. In the meantime, God bless you guys. Stay clean. We'll talk soon. Hey, everybody, it's Thea again. Thanks for listening to Unleash the Man Within.
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