Speaker 1 (00:00:00) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God. That is the question, and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Yo, yo. What is happening? My man, it's Sathiya Sam. Here I am, the creator and the host of this phenomenal podcast called Unleash the Man within the number one daily recovery podcast. I can tell you there's a bunch of recovery podcasts out there. None of them are daily, and if they are, they ain't number one like us. So I'm glad you're here and I'm really glad that you're listening. Look, we are we are just over 430,000 downloads on this podcast and what's only been about two and two years in a couple of months of podcasting. And I owe it all to you guys.
Speaker 1 (00:01:04) - I mean, you guys have driven the growth of this podcast so tremendously. And so I say the numbers not really to brag. In fact, I had to actually go scrounge them up because I don't really track them regularly. But the reason I say that is because, number one, you guys should be proud of yourselves. I want you guys to get some positive feedback that when you do share an episode and when you do share this content on your platforms or wherever it might be, it really does help us grow what we're doing here and reach more men with this life changing message. And the second reason I mentioned the numbers is so that you can see how good God has been to us. And I think it really is a testament that God has blessed our ministry, God has grown our business, and God has allowed us to impact more lives. And none of this would have happened without you guys sharing and spreading the word. So a big thank you for that. Today's episode is titled The Lord's or Why the Lord's Day is the Most Popular Day to Watch Porn.
Speaker 1 (00:02:00) - And I already know there's a bunch of you that are probably going to push back on a title like that, because biblically speaking, the Lord's Day is Saturday and some people debate it's Saturday or it's Sunday. Some people say the Lord's Day could be any day you want it to be. I'm not really here for that debate. Okay. I am referring to Sunday when I say the Lord's day for the sake of our content today. Whether or not you agree that Sunday is the Lord's day, I hope you can get past that and see the real content that we're actually trying to or the real issue that we're trying to discuss. So this whole statistic is actually based off of Pornhub year in review, which which we know is something that they do regularly. And so basically at the beginning of a new year, Pornhub will release its data on the previous year and there's actually a lot of insights on that document or that that end of the year project. But without fail guys, year after year, Sunday is the most popular day to watch pornography.
Speaker 1 (00:03:02) - So figure that one out like pornography is typically something we resort to, to take the edge off, to gain comfort, to have something to look forward to, pleasure, excitement. And it's interesting that we we like save it for the weekend, you know what I mean? When, like, it's so accessible and so easy to to. Well, yeah. To, to engage in, you would just think that maybe it would be like Friday but people are out on Friday so that makes sense. Saturdays, you know people are chilling. They're busy doing stuff together though, with family or friends or whatever. And then something happens on Sunday. Now, the interesting thing from a Christian perspective is that 33 to 37% of Americans attend church regularly. So if if people really are like, you know, earmarking their Sundays is like, this is the day that I'm going to be in God's house with God's people, I'm going to make an attempt to connect with God. Then how could it be that Sunday is the most popular day to view pornography? Well, let's think a little bit about what drives people to watch porn in the first place.
Speaker 1 (00:04:04) - Disconnection, unmet needs, triggers, shame, boredom, loneliness. I mean, the list goes on and on. And I guess something is hinting that we're experiencing these things a lot more than we realize, maybe not even just on a Sunday, although that's clearly happening, but also in the days leading up to it. So it's a little bit of an eerie statistic. You know, like Sunday's supposed to be like this more spiritual day where we go to church and we plug in and we hang out with our friends and we do life together. And you would think that porn consumption would be a lot less. But I think what is actually happening and this is purely speculation, we don't we don't have a full analysis to really explain this. But I think what's happening is that we're actually getting trigger on Sundays a lot more than we realize. Church For me, I actually still remember this is one of my darker memories around my porn addiction. But I was waiting to get picked up to go to church and my parents had left early and I think I was maybe coming to the second service or it was something like that.
Speaker 1 (00:05:10) - And and so I was waiting for my ride and I had about 15 minutes and I was just watching TV. You know, it's Sunday morning television. It's mostly televangelists. And there was an infomercial. And the woman in the infomercial caught my attention, sent me into Lust Lane. And I started fantasizing and I went and quickly masturbated before I got picked up. And it's like, man, what what the heck is going on? Like, I'm going to church. I just did that. I was going to church to play on the worship team. And, you know, you're just living in this huge, overwhelming sense of hypocrisy and whatever else. And, you know, I reflected back on that. And it'd be so easy to be like, well, you know, you got triggered and you fantasize and you didn't have control of this compulsive behavior in your life. So what's the big deal? But in hindsight, when I think about it, I actually had a bunch of distressing incidents and dynamics that were surrounding that worship team.
Speaker 1 (00:06:12) - In fact, just the church at large. It was a really tumultuous season. My dad wound up getting kind of ostracized to to put it calmly at that church, particularly by the board. And it was a very messy exit and that that situation was escalate around this time. So what was really happening is there was stress going on, right? There was stress in my life that was causing a bunch of these issues. And porn was sort of my solution. But what exposed the stress in my life? What exposed the issues? Well, it was Sunday morning. It was church. And I know that maybe you haven't had a story like just like that, but that you have probably experienced some of these things on a Sunday. You know, church can actually be a very lonely place. Do you think these are the people that I'm supposed to be friends with? These people are supposed to know me, but they don't know X, Y, Z, or whatever it might be. Or maybe there's somebody that you got into a spat with or someone you don't get along.
Speaker 1 (00:07:12) - Somebody that just feels a bit off or rubbed you the wrong way and you have to say hi to them and shake their hand or whatever it is. There's all these different things. But you know, I'm speaking to the Christians here. Like we got to really protect Sundays, man, because I'm really I'm not okay with Sunday being the day that that we all go turn to pornography. I just don't think that's okay. Now look, this is not like a shaming thing. Like, come on, get it together. But this is to say, like, we need to be on the better side of this statistic. And I have a couple suggestions. Now, these are not this is not a comprehensive solution. You guys should know this by now. We do ten, 11, 12 minute episodes. And so nothing we do in a 12 minute episode is comprehensive. We're doing piece by piece, bit by bit. And if you really want to help piecing things together, that's where you can do our program and do our courses and you'll get something that's much more holistic and comprehensive.
Speaker 1 (00:08:00) - But what I want to show you is just a couple of things that you guys can do on Sundays that should really help. So number one is plug into your church. Don't just attend it, plug into your church. What does that mean? Well, maybe you just join the greeting team. Could be plain and simple. Or you become a youth leader. Or if you have skills that lend themselves to hospitality or worship team or whatever it might be, find ways to plug in. Okay. Number two is connect. Now the key with connecting like again, such a just the worst kind of Christian Christians language to use because it's so vague and broad, it can mean a bunch of different things and sometimes it's a bit of a cop out. But when I say connect, what I really mean is find people that you feel a connection with and then be around them. Like it's actually it's very similar to dating. Like if you if you meet a girl and you feel a connection to her, you're probably going to try to be around her a little more often.
Speaker 1 (00:08:57) - Right? And you have to kind of do this with your friends, like I'm speaking especially to the millennials, where we're no longer like in the young adult stage where like your life is built so that you just see your friends all the time. You have to have to make a conscious effort. Look, you have to be really intentional about this stuff, and I'll just be the first to raise my hand and say, my wife and I, we are not doing a good job in this area. So this is something that we're really focused on and trying to grow in right now. But it's been a real challenge for us. And part of that is because we live a couple of months of the year in a different country. And part of it is just, you know, we're just figuring out dynamics, being at a new church and then the last thing is participate. So the one, the one thing I'm dreaming about seeing, seeing the men of this world and certainly the men of our communities become is the men who are who are going up to the front.
Speaker 1 (00:09:47) - When the altars open, the guys who are raising their hands, the guys who are leading the way. I love seeing women of God grow in their relationship. I love how devout they are and how the reality is 80% of all volunteers at churches are women. And so we owe a lot to them. But I. I am longing for the days where men are ready to step up, not just to be leaders at work and not just to be leaders at home, but to be leaders in the church as well. Not just the pastors from the pulpit, but in the pews as well, being leaders, participating, demonstrating what it means to be a man of God. I'm longing for that. And so I implore you, in your recovery pursuits and everything else that you do, be be this guy, be the guy who plugs in, be the guy who connects. Be the guy who participates. Now, if you don't go to church, okay, for whatever reason, find other ways to build meaningful connection on Sundays.
Speaker 1 (00:10:42) - The one thing that's becoming crystal clear is that the reason Johann Hari's TEDTalk went viral eight, nine years ago is because what he was saying was absolutely true. And it was that the opposite of addiction is in sobriety. It's connection. So for all of us, it is our job on Sundays and certainly every other day to be aware of how we're plugging in and how we're connecting with people. But here's the catch in all of this. Okay, guys. And I want you to get this. The reason Sundays are so significant is because it's the Lord's Day. And if the enemy is trying to work against us, obviously that day, we're going to have a big target on our backs. So be vigilant. If you're really struggling with pornography and you have relapses on Sunday, have a Sunday plan. Have a plan for how you're going to connect with people for how you're going to. Plug in for. How are you going to participate for how you're going to make sure that you do not give way to the schemes of the enemy and the the just more frequent triggers and temptations that seem to arise on Sundays.
Speaker 1 (00:11:45) - So that's everything for today. Guys, thank you so much for listening. Stay clean and make sure you share this episode with somebody that you love, that you think might benefit from it. Thanks so much. We'll talk soon. Bye bye. Hey, everybody, it's Thea again. Thanks for listening to Unleash the Man Within. I wanted to take a quick moment to let you know about a free e-book that I wrote for you called The Ultimate Guide to Porn Recovery. It provides a basic framework for the recovery process and a few of my top tips completely free of charge. You can get it now at WWW ultimate recovery guide.com that's WWW ultimate recovery guide. Com. Now if you've been impacted by the podcast and you want to show some support in less than 60s, there are three ways you can do that. First, you can leave a rating or review on your podcast platform. This lets people like you know that the content here is valuable. Secondly, you can share this episode with someone in your life that might benefit from the content.
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