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So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and big dreams in our hearts, all establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships and a meaningful connection with God.
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That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to unleash the man with
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yo, yo, yo, what's up everybody? It's Sam here. Welcome to unleash the man with him. Thank you guys so much for listening. I'm so glad that you're here and I just to let you guys know, you know every once in a while I will mention that we don't run ads to this podcast. We don't have sponsors. We really rely on you guys spreading the word and I have to say you guys are doing this at like unprecedented levels. We have had a significant growth in our listenership during the month of August, which is sometimes a download actually for the podcast. So thanks. I don't know what else to say. I'm blown away. I still appreciate it. And hey, if you're new, welcome. I'm so glad that you guys are here. I'm not going to say too much more about that. But let me just mention real quick that if you are getting value out of what we do here and you would like the listening experience to continue to sit it to stay void of advertisements and sponsorships and any kind of ulterior motives or whatever it might be. The best thing you can do is to leave a rating or review on your preferred platform if you haven't done that yet. And of course continue to share the love spread the word so thank you to all of you who are doing that. I just I can't tell you guys how much I appreciate that. Please. Let's keep it up. Okay, today we are going through some really interesting content. We're talking about seven addiction quotes that will change your life and if you have listened to me for a while or if you follow me on Instagram, which by the way, we're about to cross 80,000 followers over there. Just wild. A year ago, less than a year ago we were at 5000. So growing lots over there. One of the things you'll observe is that I really like concise statements. I just I have such a value for one liners. Not because I'm like you know a quote junkie but anybody who can get a point across in the fewest amount of words wins. And I found some quotes recently that I thought would just be worth sharing with you guys. These are quotes that I don't think any of these quotes are mine. I'm just taking a look through I wrote down seven of them. I maybe the last one is mine. But these are seven quotes that have really given perspective in my own recovery. These are quotes that we've used to, you know, encourage other men to make recoveries or to encourage other men in the midst of their recoveries and you know no matter how you slice it, well, I'm not just trying to give you some flashy quotes. So we can say, Oh, wow, what a powerful statement. But I want to unpack them at least a little bit and give you an idea of like, Hey, here's what this means for you in recovery today, right now. Okay, so let's jump into it. First quote. Maybe my all time favorite and the person who gave this quote is anonymous, so can't even give credit where credit is due.
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Addiction is giving up everything for one thing. Recovery is giving up one thing for everything. And the reason I love this quote so much is because you will not make a successful recovery unless you know what is on the other side in advance. Now you don't know fully what's on the other side until you get to the other side. That's just the reality. That's not what I'm talking about. What I'm talking about is you have to have a vision of your porn free life. You have to have a why a deep seated why of this is the reason that I need to get free so that you'll actually be willing to give up the one thing see a lot of people are willing to give up the one thing because they don't have a good enough why or a big enough vision to compel them to make the necessary sacrifices for a successful recovery. So if you're listening to this right now hear this one more time addiction is giving up everything for one thing, recovery is giving up one thing for everything.
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Second quote the further you go in recovery, the less you can take with you okay, I lied sorry, that one's actually that's a Scythia quote. The further you go on recovery, the less so that is a lot of wisdom unpack in there. But here is what I mean by that.
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Recovery has little to do with what you get a lot more to do with what you give up especially early on.
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So if I really want to make the recovery, you will have to give up more and more and more will be required of you. But you will gain more on the other side. It just takes a lot of sacrifice to get there in the first place the further you go and recovery. Bless you can take with you. Next quote. Real recovery starts with repentance. I really really am a big fan of the statement. If you look at the Greek word for repentance, you know where you have like a scripture like Romans two, four, where it talks about how it's the kindness of God that leads us to repentance. That word is metanoia and metanoia in the Greek means to change your ways.
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As in to change your nature. And other people would translate as to change the way that you think.
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So So repentance is not asking for forgiveness. See, I used to think that I thought every time I had a slip and a relapse, I would repent quote unquote, but what I was actually doing was just asking God to forgive me and kind of kind of date into this like, oh, you know if I really let myself feel how how painful this is and how shamed I am. It'll drive me away from the thing I'm trying to avoid. When in reality what it did is it kept me in sort of this infinite loop where no matter how hard I tried to resist it, the shame and the self loathing and self deprecating always kept me coming back. Real recovery when my life really started to change. I actually began to change my ways, my very nature, begin to look just a little bit more like Jesus every single day that was the goal. And in that process, I began to perceive things differently. I began to see myself differently instead of blaming, you know, women wearing revealing clothing or, or I don't know the oldest sexual promiscuity that's kind of perpetuated in our society, rather than being a victim and playing the blame game. I was taking ownership. I was seeing things differently. And my life moved forward and I didn't look back, you know, I had my last relapse February 2016 and I've been able to help hundreds of guys get free since So, real recovery does not start with forgiveness, my friends, real recovery starts with repentance. Big fan of this quote next, this next one that I'm about to show you trying to defeat addiction on your own is like trying to do brain surgery on yourself and whoever came up with this deserves a trophy I again I don't I don't believe we know who it was that actually came up with this quote and if we do I apologize I don't have it in my notes here. But the reason I love this is because it exposes every single man's first plan to overcome an addiction, right? Like it's like 21 year old set the you know, just gave his life to Jesus, ready to live a clean and pure on fire life for him. And the course of action the plan of attack was let's do this solo, right, like let's do this with the least exposure possible. The least vulnerability possible. The least displays of weakness possible for sure. Like that. That was my thinking was how do I do this without causing or how do I do this in a way that causes the least amount of damage to my reputation, my ego what other people think of me like it was so vain, you know, and it was so driven by this fear of man thing, but that was my approach was I'm going to do this on my own and then I let one person in and I got a little bit further ahead you know that I let a couple more people in and I started to move further ahead. And then I plugged into like a thriving community where I could be vulnerable and transparent on a regular basis and I had painted pretty much no secrets and nothing hidden. And wow, well that's that's what my life totally turned around. So if you're doing this thing alone, just remember you you are no better than somebody trying to do brain surgery on themselves. And we all know where that Alterna lands. Next quote okay, if you want to quit an addiction go places where quitting that addiction is the norm. Plain and simple like stop doing this alone. When you plug into community. Again, I think you need good community where you're just doing life together. But it's supremely valuable in those intense recovery seasons of life as they arise, that you are surrounded by people who are going through that process and that is championed by people have already quit the addiction that needs to be the norm and you will naturally rise to the standard of that social group.
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Next, quote, a satisfied heart rarely wanders. Very, very important one here. This is really getting to the crux of recovery, which is that we want to address things at a heart level. The deeper we get into the matters of the heart, the less likely you are to wander. That is the goal. That is what good recovery is marked by. And our last our seventh quote for today. porn addiction is an intimacy disorder that is from yours truly, and I really do believe it with all my heart. I believe that if you can solve the intimacy issue if you can find a better way to experience full connections, that with your friends, with your peers, your leaders, your colleagues, your mentors, and certainly your romantic partners girlfriends fiance's and wives, wife, singular, you know what I mean? If you can find ways to experience healthy intimacy there, that is gonna go a really long way to curbing the cravings and the appetites that you may have for the lust and porn. Addiction and masturbation and the like. And I just I cannot stress this enough guys that you want to make sure in your recovery, that you are going through a process that actually breaks down the barriers because if you're having if you're experiencing intimacy issues, there are barriers that need to get broken down. And typically, it needs to happen with expert guidance, whether it's a coach, a counselor, a therapist, maybe it's just a really seasoned and equipped leader. It doesn't really matter but you want to have that guidance to make sure that you are experiencing intimacy in a healthy way. So that your appetite for pornography and things like it diminish. So guys, that's everything for today. I hope this gave you some perspective on your own recovery on where you've come from to where you are today and certainly where God is taking you in the future. I want to let you know that I'm cheering you on. And I can't wait to see in the next episode in the meantime, stay clean. We'll talk soon.
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