Speaker 1 (00:00:01) - So here's the million dollar question. How are men like us who work hard, have good motives and a God given purpose supposed to fulfill the calling on our lives and the dreams in our hearts, all while establishing sexual integrity, thriving relationships, and a meaningful connection with God. That is the question, and this podcast will give you the answers. My name is Sathiya Sam. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Yo, yo, yo. What's going on, everybody? Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you guys so much for listening. Hope you're having an amazing day and I'm super excited. We're going to get into some content today about less is more. Guys, mark my words, this is a life long message. This message has been relevant since the beginning of time, yet it has never been more relevant today because we are a very distracted opportunities abounding kind of society. And while that is all well and good in many respects, it also creates a myriad of issues. And I think we have to be careful and make sure that we guard against them.
Speaker 1 (00:01:17) - So today's episode is titled Less is More. Hey, before I jump in really quick, if you have not left a rating review for this podcast, I just want to let you know that's the only way that we grow. We do not run ads. We don't have sponsors. We really rely on you, the listener, to spread the word. And so you're willing to do that by either sharing our content with other people in your circles or by leaving a rating or review on your platform. That not only means the world to me, I really do appreciate it, but it actually signals to other people like you that there's quality content here that they can benefit from as well. And you guys have been so generous already with your ratings and reviews. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. But look, if you're willing to just keep those coming, that would mean a lot to me. So thank you so much for doing that. Let's jump in. Let's talk about this whole concept of less is more.
Speaker 1 (00:02:04) - Now, one of the things that I am really big on and you should actually be very big on this as well, is learning from people who practice what they preach or maybe to actually be a little bit more accurate learning from people who are practicing what they are preaching, you know, real time. Because it's funny. Like I listen back to old episodes every once in a while and you kind of catch like, Oh wow, I forgot about that season, right? Because there's there's a season for everything. And sometimes I'm teaching stuff to you guys because it's it's real for me right now. And six months from now, the stuff I'm talking about will be very different because I'll be going through a different season, I'll have different priorities or whatever it might be. My big thing right now is less is more. This all started in March of 2023. I had discovered that man I knew how to grow a business and growing a business was fun and the business is growing and we're making money and we're helping people and we're hiring a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:03:02) - And we're, you know, we're starting to just like, get some momentum. And I remember it was end of March and I looked on my calendar and I was so disappointed to see I still had another two weeks before my vacation. I am. I would say ever since I quit my job in July 2021. It has been very rare that I'm ever really counting down the days to a vacation. I love my vacations, but it's actually quite rare when I'm like, Oh wow, I really needed it the one time I the other, the only time I really felt that since quitting my job in the last two years was after I launched my book where I was like, Man, that was a lot of work. I'm going to go take a bit of a break for a while. And so I did that. But generally speaking, I'm I need the vacation and I know I need it, but I'm not so worn down that I'm counting down the days that happened in March. And it began what has been two parallel paths of trying to consolidate and simplify my life.
Speaker 1 (00:04:07) - The first path is on a business level where I am hiring people. I am building more systems. I am trying to restructure my time and eliminate things that are no longer interesting or valuable to me. And the second thing or the second path rather, is the more personal part of it really managing my resources, my time and my energy and even managing my finances in a way that give me time and energy back. And I might explain some of that a little bit later if time allows for it. But if I could summarize what God has been really doing in my heart, it has been this whole concept of less is more. And this was punctuated by a book I just read called ten X is Easier than two x. It's a book designed for business owners. And if you are a business owner, you need to read that book. It is life changing. It has been really, really impactful for me. But if you're not a business owner, which I know a majority of you aren't, what I want to do is just extract a couple of the principles that really are universally, universally applicable and and talk a little bit about what it might look like for you.
Speaker 1 (00:05:20) - So let me let me give you the basic premise of this book and that I'll segue into the application. The basic premise of this book is that if you try to two x something in your life, you try to double a revenue classic business example. But let's say you want you want your fitness to be two X, you want to double your fitness, whatever that means to you, or you want to double your marriage, whatever that means to you. You can usually achieve A2X goal by working harder, working more, doing more of the things, more of the stuff. That's easy. Um, on the flip side. Um. Ten Exiting a goal is not that simple. I guess we could put it that way. In other words, if I said, what would it take for you to have ten times the marriage or, you know, in my case, what would it take for you to have ten times the business? Suddenly you have to think very differently because you can no longer just work harder to get ten times the outcome.
Speaker 1 (00:06:28) - You have to think a lot more strategically and you have to identify and then isolate the activities. The behaviors and the principles that yield the greatest result. You have to isolate them so you can't you identify them first and then you isolate them, as in you eliminate all of the other things that are two x, the things that could help you get a little bit, but not a lot. So ten X setting a ten x vision forces you to think differently. And the basic premise of this book is that ten X is easier than two x because you if you do this correctly, you should actually have to work less to make it happen because you will start to find the right people to make it happen. You will start to really value your resources and only channel them into the things that are the highest leverage. ET cetera. ET cetera. So much so that their whole philosophy, the guys who wrote this book, their actual their basic philosophy is that you should be working less. So that's one of the things they do with their clients, is they actually have them chunk out 153 days every single year.
Speaker 1 (00:07:36) - So that's about three days per week on average that they are not working. They're literally just doing fun things to get their creative juices going, to get their their mind and their energy off of the business, because that is where you actually start to do your most creative work. That's kind of the basic premise. And their claim is that in doing so, most entrepreneurs quadruple their income. They tend their business. ET cetera. ET cetera. Now, the the concept here that we want to distill from all this, guys, is that less is more. And we are in a society whose implicit message is more, is better, more is better. And I agree that more is better. However, the way you experience more is by doing less. And this is the countercultural, counterintuitive part that our society at large is having a hard time wrestling with. Social media is the great example. The thing I come back to again and again. I remember in 2012, I woke up one day, I was still struggling with porn addiction.
Speaker 1 (00:08:40) - I was probably a year into my recovery and I remember the Holy Spirit. It was like clear as day. I couldn't ignore the thought if I wanted to. I got up out of my bed and I thought, social media is destroying my life. Like it was like I'm trying so hard to quit pornography and I'm still watching or I'm still spending all this time on social media. So I literally went, I found a blocker, a little thing that that prevented me or or restricted my time on social media. And we were off to the races and it's been a really good journey ever since. I have averaged about ten minutes of social media use per day. Some seasons have been less, some seasons have been more, but it would all flatline roughly to around ten minutes per day. Less is more. Social media has more and more and more. More and more. There's more stories. There's more foes post rather, there's more features. There's more profiles to check out. You know, if you look at work, I was talking to somebody about applying for jobs the other day.
Speaker 1 (00:09:41) - There are so many jobs available and you might think, wow, what a great opportunity. But some people actually find that overwhelming. Whereas if you have two jobs and you have to hire for both, you're probably going to put your best foot forward, right? You're going to try real hard because you will have these two shots. You've got to make it count, right? And so this whole thing of less is more is is scattered across our lives. It's true of our relationships, you know, having a healthy marriage or a healthy relationship in general, whether it's a friendship or whatever. It's not about doing hundreds of things together and talking on the phone all the time and whatever, whatever. It's just it's about doing the things that add the greatest amount of value to the relationship and your connection with God. You don't have to be, you know, expert at worship and prayer and reading the Bible and spending time quiet time with him in stillness. And you know what I mean? Like, you don't need to do all those things, but you do need to know what's the one thing that maybe I really need to focus on right now that's going to bring the greatest yields, The greatest outcome less is more.
Speaker 1 (00:10:42) - We want to have this approach in everything that we can do. Having an approach of what are the few things that have the greatest impact and how do I eliminate all the other minutia elements that are actually tearing me down and they're draining a lot of my resources that could be channeled into the more higher leverage activities. I'll conclude by saying this In recovery, we are observing something very similar. And the whole notion is the problem with recovery is that you don't always know what it is that you need to do. That's just the honest truth, right? And and Sathiya tells you that you guys need to do XYZ and then somebody else tells you you need to do A, B, C, Well, who's right? Is it Sathiya or is it the other guy? Or are both these guys wrong or are both these guys right? It's hard to kind of discern all this. So there is a degree of testing and experimentation and trying some things and seeing if they work and trying some other things and until you start to kind of narrow things down.
Speaker 1 (00:11:39) - But the goal is that we maybe start wide, but we finished narrow with a less is more mentality, isolating the small things that have the greatest impact in our recovery. For me, those were very simple. It was journaling and it was talking to other people. Literally those two things, the the work to get to the roots that that came in conjunction with those other elements. But if I didn't feel like doing the deep work, I didn't feel like talking to a therapist or doing inner healing or whatever, I could still journal, I could still talk to a friend and it would be incredibly healing and helpful for me. Those were my high leverage activities and those are the things that you miss. Bar none regardless, no ifs, ands or buts. They're the things you prioritize. You seal, you cement you jealously guard and protect at all costs. Because you know that as long as you can stick with those things consistently, you will get very close, if not overachieve in in targeting your goal.
Speaker 1 (00:12:32) - And so that's that's what we're after and that's why less is more. And here's the beauty, guys. The last thing I'll say, this goes for every area of your life relationships, spirituality, finances, emotional well-being, mental well-being, your physical health and your fitness, your career and your vocation, your walk with God and spirituality. I mean, there's literally no limit to this concept. This is universal. It's fundamental, It's foundational. And I hope you'll take it today and figure out how you can apply it in your life. In the meantime, thank you guys so much for listening. Stay clean. We'll talk soon. Bye bye. Hey, everybody, it's Lithia again. Thanks for listening to Unleash the Man Within. I wanted to take a quick moment to let you know about a free e-book that I wrote for you called The Ultimate Guide to Porn Recovery. It provides a basic framework for the recovery process and a few of my top tips completely free of charge. You can get it now at WW alternate recovery guide.com that's W WW waltman recovery Guide.
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