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Hey, what's up my man welcome to unleash the man with it. And thank you so much for listening. I'm
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so glad you're here today. I'm so excited. We're gonna dive into some really important content about a porn addicts capacity for love. And I'm gonna give you a little bit of context for why we're even venturing down this path, but I'll just put it this way. This question is asked way more often than you might think. So I think it's important that we talk about it. Excuse me before we do that, if you don't have a copy of my book yet, the last relapse that's my best seller, and I basically spilled the tea. Everything that we do to work with our clients who pay, you know, a pretty penny to work with us is available in that book completely free of charge. And I've made it available to world as a result we've had 1000s of downloads since doing that, and you can get your copy at the last relapse book.com My treat to you and what I what I hope you'll get out of it. The design is that you're not just learning our system, but you actually get action steps because I think that's often what's lacking is we we hear like, Hey, don't watch porn, it's bad for you, you know, slap on an internet filter, try to talk to somebody about it. And this is much more this is like designed to be an experience from start to finish. The book guides you through if you do the questions, you go through the workbook material which is free as well. By the way, if you do all that stuff that comes with it. You will literally feel yourself transforming and changing as you go through. And not an exaggeration. We get probably five to 10 emails every week from people that are going through the book going through the workbook and absolutely loving it so I know that you will as well get your copy at the last relapse. book.com. So I am I'm making a bunch of changes in my company right now and most of them center around this whole concept of time. And I realized that even though I am not the kind of guy to like waste hours or even 10s of minutes on YouTube or Instagram or whatever. I realized that the way I've been looking at time has been really hindering me I've had a very scarcity kind of mindset around time. And so I'm constantly trying to cram things in and I'm doing a lot of multitasking and I've really been hindering my creativity, which is where I kind of excelled the most, even though I'm not I don't necessarily come across as a very creative person. But you know, I'm very musical. I was a recording artist for years and whether I'm being creative from an artistic and musical standpoint or even just creative with the content that we create here and all that kind of stuff I have really suffocated that part of my life as the business has grown and so I'm I'm making some changes at the time of this recording. At least I'm making some changes to try to give myself some breathing room again. And I've already gotten a little taste of it. And in that time I've been able to do some more research, I've been able to kind of dive in a little bit and and really try to to ideate a little bit more so that I can come up with content that you guys will find really valuable. One of the most searched questions in Google around sex addiction is our side. Sorry, are sex addicts or porn addicts capable of love. Fascinating. I just found this to be absolutely fascinating. And again, if this is getting Googled, then I don't know if you guys are in that contingent but I know that people out there are asking this question and maybe it's the addicts themselves. Maybe it's loved ones of the addicts, but I wanted to talk about it today. Because I think this actually begs a really interesting idea here which is basically at its core, what we're asking is Can somebody change? Because the common story is, you know, before I watched porn, I was an innocent kid, or I was a relatively good guy. I was present. I was emotionally available. I cared about other people. I wasn't selfish started out and then you know porn really start to get a stranglehold on my life. I started to become a very different person. And it really affected my ability to experience love in my romantic relationships. And often that's true in friendships and familial relationships and all that kind of stuff as well. So the question basically begs itself then are porn. Addicts capable of love? And what we're asking is Can somebody change can can we be that innocent boy that we were pre porn? Can we restore ourselves or can we be restored to the point that that we are we are kind of a pure, unadulterated version of that the person God's made us to be? And these are important questions that we have to ask in the recovery process. And that's why I really wanted to dive into this subject today. In in the truest sense, if I were to ask answer this question as directly as possible, I would, I would say no. porn addicts are not capable of love, so long as they are addicted to porn. Porn is fake intimacy porn is a soul sucking vise that that transmutes your sexual and romantic energy into the abyss that is the internet and the pockets of those who ultimately ruled the porn industry. Which is a a multi, multi slike it's a $70 billion industry. It's worth over $100 billion. The industry collective collectively. So are porn addicts capable of love? No. Because when you are addicted to pornography, you you are all the things that you that basically violate love. You prioritize yourself. You have reduced love to something that is physical and sexual only. You You actually don't even have the energy required for love. You don't have the grace for love. You don't have the mercy for love. You don't have any of the things that love is patient, kind, gentle, etc, etc. So, porn addicts are not capable of love period, but you may recall if you've listened to the art content for a while, and if you're new welcome. Let me introduce to you a very core piece of our philosophy, which is that we do not believe once an addict, always an addict, that that whole tautology is BS. It is not true. People change God changes people. People can't change on their own people can't change themselves. That's, that's a common misunderstanding about the world and secular doctrine. But God can change a person if God can create a person you best believe he can change a person. So you may have an addiction. I don't believe that makes you an addict. Now, yes, I'm splitting hairs a little bit. I am not trying to suggest that I'm not trying to negate the addiction. I'm not trying to sugarcoat it or soften the blow or whatever and addiction is an addiction. But we don't need to wear that as an identity. Because as long as we aware that as an identity, it will be hard for us to behave any differently than that of an addict. So our porn addicts capable of love, no, but you are not an addict. That's not your identity. Secondly, God can change a person God can change anyone. If you look at Paul Paul wrote over half the New Testament, and his testimony was that he was the persecutor of Christians. He became everything that he hated at one point. And he didn't do it on his own. He had an encounter with the living God on the road to Damascus. God can change anyone. God can change Paul, if God can change the Thea from being a hopelessly addicted pastor worship leader, pastor's kid. If God can take that guy and help him be clean for seven and a half years, you best believe he can do it for you, too. On the flip side, are porn addicts capable of love? Yes. Will porn addicts adequately express love while they are addicted? No. But capacity? Absolutely. You it doesn't matter how long you've struggled or what you've done. You have the capacity of pure, genuine, godly, biblical love, both to receive it and to express it that thing is within you. But But we have to eliminate the layers that are hindering pornography being at the top of that list. So don't let anybody tell you that you can't do something. Don't let anybody tell you that you're not capable of something. Those are lies from the pit of hell. You're capable of love. But your capacity and the potential that God has deposited within you is siphoned. It's cut off when you engage in things like pornography, and other sexual sin. That's why you know, deep clean the work that I do helping men quit pornography is not about helping men quit pornography. It's about helping men become everything God made them to be. We just acknowledge and identify that pornography is maybe the biggest obstacle hindering that goal. And so if we can help you quit pornography, we can help you become the man God made you to be. And that's what this is all about. So that's everything for today. Guys, thank
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you so much for listening. Make sure that you look at the links in the show notes. If you want free resources. If you want the book, if you want to book a time with our team. It's all there. I would love for you guys to check it out so you can get the help that you deserve. And for many of you the help that you need, in the meantime, much love to you. Thank you so much for listening. I'll talk to you soon. Bye
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