Speaker 1 0:02
Man, welcome to unleash the man within. Thank you so much for listening. I'm so glad you're here. Super excited. We're gonna dive into some great content today about Your Brain on Porn. And every time we talked about neuroscience on here, you guys just eat it up. So, I'm gonna try to make a more a little bit more of a habit of doing this regularly. And I'm even working a little bit on just a small a very, very small course like I'm talking about like a 1215 minute training on how to rewire your brain. And so I'll let you guys know when that's available. I'm not promoting that today or anything like that, but I'm just trying to let you guys know that this is something I'm thinking about a lot because I think we are all very aware of how important this subject is in the role of recovery. So we're going to do as deep a dive as we can in about 10 minutes. 15 minutes today. 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Let's get into today's content. So we're talking about Your Brain on Porn and the you know the question in research is always like, is porn really that bad? And so a lot there's actually have some very respected researchers who would you know, basically say that, Oh, you know, people who struggle with porn addiction, it's just about their psychology, you know, because they perceive it as a problem. It is a problem and people who don't have a moral conviction about it, can watch porn and experience its benefits and blahdy blahdy blah. So there's there's all kinds of stuff out there. porn addiction is not a diagnosable condition according to gosh, I It's totally escaped. My mind. The book that is used for psychiatry, psychiatric diagnosis, why can't I think of that? It will come to me in a minute. The DSM Yes, the DSM five the DSM five does not recognize porn addiction. So there's a lot of arguments that people make of why this is not, you know, not legitimate. But there's a guy named Dr. Gary Wilson, he passed away in 2020, I believe, or 2021. And he was one of the first researchers to really dive in from an academic standpoint and expose the detriments of pornography. And he has been on numerous papers himself, but he's also identified a lot of literature over the years. And so I'll put a link to this actually in the show notes. Because I think it'd be good for you guys to go and check this out. But here's what I would. Here's what we're We'll start today. It is very, very clear that when you watch pornography, your brain changes, the longer you watch porn, so either the duration of the episodes where you watch and also the duration of how long this is just simply in your life. 1020 30 years, the more that your brain starts to change, and there is there's actually some neuroscience based studies that show how the brain changes and that the changes to the structure of the brain resemble that of any other addiction. They basically support the addiction model. Now, there are some studies that don't, okay, so again, I'm trying to be really honest with you guys. There are there are a couple studies that that suggest Okay, maybe not. Maybe it doesn't quite fit the addiction model. Those studies are a very small minority. Most studies that have ventured down that path, have proven that the changes in the structure of the brain resemble that of addiction. So I just want to start there as kind of a a basis that there is actually neuroscience behind this this is not just a Thea, the conservative Christian kind of guy who's got his opinion, and he's trying to, you know, fudge the numbers to make it look like this is scientific. There's hard data that actually shows this. Okay. Number two, this is this is probably the biggest detriment of porn on your brain is a process called desensitization. Now, the best way I can explain this is if if you've ever been in a room and you let one rip, and everyone is like, Oh, what's that smell? That reeks? Who did that you know that I get that from my wife like once a week. So when when you get that, everybody additionally they're like, ah, that's disgusting, right? They smell it. And then what happens after you know, 30 seconds to a minute, assuming that that people didn't clear the room, which I suppose is possible, but if people stuck around what happens? Well, they're not complaining about it anymore. Assuming that you know it was one and done because they have become desensitized. Your sensory organs do not detect stimulus, they detect changes in stimulus very, it's it's an interesting concept to wrap your head around. It's like if if four of you tried to cram into the backseat of a car, and your legs are all squished against each other. At first, you're like, Oh, this is all squishy, and you're like, Oh, my legs touching so and so's leg or someone says like it's touching my leg. But after like a minute, you're no longer thinking about it because even though the stimuli is still there, you're still experiencing that stimulation of your legs rubbing against each other. It hasn't changed, the pressure between you guys has not changed. So because there's no change, you don't really detect the stimulation. So our brains are wired to detect not just stimulus but actually changes in stimulus, which is why when you let one rip and it reeks, Well, originally that's like an assault. On the senses, because it's a change in stimulus, but after a while, they get desensitized because nothing's changing. So this happens when you watch pornography, but it affects your capacity for arousal. So there's over 60 studies that show our findings consistent with the escalation of porn use, building up tolerance and habituation to porn, you know, and even withdrawal symptoms. So what does this mean? It means that your brain becomes accustomed to a certain level of sexual stimulation. And that stimulation eventually starts to become irrelevant because your brain develops a callus if you will develop a desensitization. So it requires greater levels of stimulation, which is why if you were to observe your viewership of pornography over the last 1020 30 years, however long it's been, you will observe that you do not watch the same stuff now that you used to when you first started. Some of you might be watching very extreme content. And you might think that there's something terribly wrong with you when in reality, your brain is simply driving up that threshold, because you are building desensitization by watching so much porn on a relatively consistent basis. This is neuroscience, this is proven, and this is what's going on in your brain. And I would say this is probably the biggest thing that would that would that would affect your brain and its ability to really function at its optimal capacity. There's also a really emerging body of research that would suggest that porn actually leads to sexual problems. In fact, there's over 50 studies that link porn use, or porn addiction to sexual problems. And lower arousal to sexual stimuli, which is kind of like a byproduct of the desensitization process. But it's not just a byproduct because what happens when you have low quality sexual experiences with your sexual partner? Well, it's going to start to lead to wear down in the in the relationship, it could affect your confidence. It might affect your sense of self worth, that all these things that start to shape your brain and because they are so damaging to the brain, you are going to be more inclined to go view pornography or something that is going to alleviate the discomfort, alleviate the pain alleviate the illusion that there's something wrong with you. And these things start to fuel into each other and so you watch more porn and your brain changes more and then the byproducts increase and then you watch more porn, and so on. And so forth. You can kind of see how this becomes a very cyclical situation that ultimately leads to a lot worse issues.
Speaker 1 9:08
Now let's go let's go one step further with this, which would show that there's at studies Canada actually over 80 studies that link porn use to less sexual and relationship satisfaction. So this is a big deal. It really is pretty much undeniable. And the last thing that I'm going to say just for the sake of today on how this affects your brain, is that there's actually over 85 studies that link porn use to poor mental emotional health, and poor cognitive outcomes. Things like your ability to focus, your ability to problem solve your ability to concentrate for longer periods of time, your ability to be present in a relationship, your ability to relate on a deeper emotional level, your ability to articulate your emotions, your ability to listen to others who are sharing their emotions, being able to piece together, hidden or buried meaning not just the words that they're saying, not just the things that are tangible and visible and audible, but the things that are intangible. All of those parts of your brain become hindered by chronic porn consumption. So what's the point of today's today's topic or today's podcast? Number one, I want you to see that this is not light stuff. Your brain is literally the control center for your entire life, right your your thoughts, your movements, your decisions, your paradigms, your perceptions, your beliefs, I mean, everything is channeled or or housed within your brain. This is a big deal. But secondly, and this is the thing that I really want you guys to get. Your brain was not always like this. There was a time where your brain knew a porn free life. These changes happened over time. And what does that mean for you? Well, what it means is that if it's if it could change in one direction, it can change in the other as well. Your brain doesn't know the difference. Your brain just knows it needs to adapt, if you force it to adapt, and your brain knows that it doesn't need to adapt if nothing's forced me to do so. So the good news for you and I is there's also research that shows the clinical manifestations. All of the things that I've listed in today's episode can be reversed. Your brain can literally go back to a state or a situation where it's like it never got exposed to porn in the first place. And we know that that is not just because your brain is so amazing. We know that is by the grace of God. It's twofold. It's that God has designed your brain in such a way that it can do that. So he gets the glory there. But it's also that God is able to take our efforts and multiply them and bring about an exponential work that you and I could have never contrived in our own efforts. And collectively, this is why you can change it doesn't matter how far you've gone. Doesn't matter what you're watching or what you've watched. It doesn't matter what you've done or who you've done. Or what it looked like or whatever. It does not matter. Your brain can change. You have to make that decision though. I can't decide that for you. Your wife can't decide that for you. Your pastor can't decide that for you. There's no one who can make that decision for you. You have to decide that you are willing to recondition decondition and reprogram your brain so that it can look the way God designed it so that we can take every thought captive that our minds can be renewed according to the image of Him who created us like it says in Colossians three, all of these things are possible you simply have to decide. So I welcome you to That journey guys. I made that decision about 12 years ago. It took me about four and a half years to fully get free. And here we are seven and a half years of freedom baby never been better. It's happened for me. It's happening for hundreds of guys in our community. And it can happen for you too. You can go book a time with someone on our team if you want to find out more. But in the meantime, man love you guys so much. Thank you for listening have an amazing day. I'll talk to you soon. Bye
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