Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Insane In The Brain – How To Think Better Thoughts

Brother,

It's that time in your manstrual cycle where you get a 3 email sequence from me about an important recovery subject

(These emails are sent monthly, so it's part of your cycle... just like how it works for a woma...well, I'm sure you get it).

One of the greatest developments in modern science has been the explosion in brain research. 

We know more about the brain today than ever before, and trust me – we still know a FRACTION of what's out there.

But the reality is that our sexual experiences – healthy or not – are intricately connected to our brain.

Between thoughts, paradigms, patterns, sounds, smells, and sights, the brain is at the center of just about anything sexual.

And because we are learning more about the brain, we are better understanding our...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Hands Up – The Truth About Mass Tur Bay Shun

What's up brother,

This month's sequence we are tackling a rather touchy subject (pun intended): Masturbation.

When I started helping men quit porn in 2018, it felt like lugging a ten tonne boulder up Mt Everest.

Anyone non-religious gave me the old "Oh that's cool. All the best with that."

Aka: Dude. You're going to fail.

Even my Christian friends were surprised.

"Do people really care about porn that much? And even if they do - you really think you can help them?"

But something really cool has happened the last few years...

Highly educated men like Dr. Andrew Huberman and Jordan Peterson have been speaking against the harmful effects of porn.

Fitness influencers and gurus list "quit porn" among their usual list of healthy behaviors (sleep well, don't eat junk food, exercise 3x/week, etc).

People...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Nice Guy Syndrome – What's Wrong With Being Nice?

What's going on brother,

It's that time of the month again where we dive into a vital recovery subject so that you can take another step towards freedom.

We're dealing with a big one, especially among Christian men... Nice Guy Syndrome (NGS).

This is a term coined by Dr. Robert Glover whose seminal book, "No More Mr Nice Guy" has literally sold millions of copies since its release many years ago.

The first time I heard of Nice Guy Syndrome, I immediately thought to myself, "What's wrong with being a nice guy?"

Then someone told me that's literally the first clue that you have NGS. Crap.

If you take a look at scripture, you observe that kindness is celebrated and encouraged. It's even listed as a fruit of the spirit in Galatians 5.

But nowhere in the Bible is being nice applauded.

A while...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Gentle Giant – The Elephant In The Room

My man,

I hope this email finds you well.

It's that time of the month again where we dive into a core male subject, solve the world's problems, and hopefully have a chuckle or two along the way.

This month's series is titled "Gentle Giant"...

Today's email specifically is titled "The Elephant In The Room"...

And yet, somehow, this series is not about penis health .

Instead, we are talking about an issue that EVERY SINGLE PERSON on the planet deals with.

You've dealt with it pretty much since day 1.

Then you became a teenager and dealt with it a lot more.

Then you got married – and at first it seemed like the problem had gone away.

But several months later (and ever since then), this issue comes up more and more.

Sure it comes in waves, but it's there with some kind of...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Plugged In – How's Your Connection?

Brother,

This week I had the chance to interview a man named Jon Gordon.

The guy has sold over 5 million books. Advises professional teams and athletes that you and I would immediately recognize. Charges 75k to speak at an event. You get the idea...

His core messages have revolved around positive psychology, leadership, personal development, etc. But he recently launched a book called The One Truth that is all about oneness with God.

I brought him on to my podcast because I believe his message is speaking into an area where men like me and you need help (plus he doesn't charge for podcast interviews ).

And our time together really impacted me – so it has inspired this month's email sequence. I really believe this series could be a game-changer for you so please read all the way through.

...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

1/3 – Bedroom Heat - Expectations

Hey brother,

We're all set for another epic monthly sequence focusing on bedroom heat, aka. S-E-X.

I know what you're thinking – "Bedroom fire, where does this guy come up with this stuff?"

I'd like to say it's the Holy Spirit, but honestly, my brain has always been a little whack. I'm just glad God helped me find a way to make use of it.

Here's the deal, I turned 33 recently and even though the jump from 32 to 33 seems insignificant, I've noticed that a lot of my friends are starting to talk about different problems now.

Sure, there's still some worry about finances. I think most men go through that.

And yes, there's some chatter about "kids these days" and how "times are changing so quickly".

And of course – we will talk about how bad all of our favorite sports teams here in Toronto are and...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) – Male Anatomy 101

It's time for our monthly sequence on a spicy and insightful topic concerning recovery, and this month doesn't get any spicier (or more insightful).

We're talking about male anatomy.

The trouser snake.
The silent flute.
The lap rocket.
The floppy disk (for those of you with ED).

Speaking of ED – tomorrow's email is going to cover what to do when your equipment down south isn't functioning properly (including a rather embarrassing story of my own experience with ED).

Today, however, is all about the practicals of how to keep your homie healthy and happy.

I still remember in my early years of watching hardcore p**n seeing a video title that was entirely about the appendage of the male performer.

"That's weird" I thought to myself. "Why would I care about the dude?"

So I kept scrolling.

But as time went on, as I...

When I was watching p**n on a regular basis, I was VERY aware of just how damaging sin can be.

My confidence was shot.
I felt like a shell of myself.
The sense of feeling disconnected from God was overwhelming.

And I was severely hindering my chances of getting married.

Sin is costly.

Not only from the “upfront” costs that we are keenly aware of, but also because of the collateral.

Sometimes, the reason sin persists in our lives is because the first time we committed the sin, we drew a conclusion about ourselves that enables the sin to continue.

You had an affair? You’re an adulterer.
You watch p**n? You’re a pervert.
You struggle with lust? You’re a sinner.

If you’re an adulterer by identity, then would you not continue to have adulterous interactions?

If you’re a pervert, what’s to stop you from continuing to watch p**n?

You get the idea.

The world would have you believe that your behavior dictates your identity, but in the Kingdom of...

Note: This is a 3 part email sequence, all the 3 parts have been compiled in this blog post. Each email is separately labeled.

(1/3) Community Is Overrated (for real)

Hey man,

Let me ask you something...

Raise your virtual hand if In the last year, have you heard a message about the importance of community on a...

-Podcast
-Sermon
-YouTube video
-IG/FB/TikTok post

... (apologies if your skin tone wasn't included).

If we extended that to the last 2 years, or 5 years, it would be hands up all over the place. 

Messages of community are RAMPANT. And for good reason.

But to kick this thing off with the punchline...community is terribly overrated.

"What happened to you Sathiya? I thought community was the bedrock of recovery. Connection is the opposite of addiction, therefore we need to plug-in to community, right?"

Absolutely. 100%. Still stand by all of that.

But I equally stand with the statement that community is overrated.

Just like "being present"...

Family is one of the most beautiful and complicated words in the English language.

God’s design for this thing called life is that we would experience it in the context of a safe, loving and empowering family environment.

Some of you reading this were actually fortunate enough to have an experience that matches the description above.

Many of you were not.

And some of you may not know where you land.

Personally, as a family led by immigrant parents, the question I always had rolling around in my head was “Are we normal?”

We ate different food. 
Spoke different languages. 
And didn’t really “look the part” (I grew up in the prairies to give some context lol).

As society is beginning to uncover the supreme value of childhood as a whole, parent-child relationships, and mother-father dynamics in our development, there are some risks that come with it.

One risk is that we blame all of our problems on childhood. We see this happen in our...